to think bad manners will rub off on dd?

[tab1]

My dd is 13 months and we are trying to teach her good manners by example. We went out for a family meal at the weekend and bil/sil were shouting, mil burped at the table and niece kept running in and out, pushing past people eating, burped (copying mil probably), shouting i'm hungry where's my dinner as soon as we ordered and standing up/wandering round while eating (she is 8 and always badly behaved in my opinion). Will this rub off on dd, we only see pil once a week and the rest of them monthly, or will she copy us more than anyone else as she sees us more?

[HuwEdwards]

oh my goodness, she's so little for you to be worrying about this!

Believe me, she will be exposed through school, playgroups etc. to lots of stuff you'd rather she wasn't. You just have to make your own rules and stick to them...but ime, and as she gets older, don't expect your DD's friends to.

[tab1]

i think i'm just annoyed at ils really and i don't want dd to turn out like our niece.

[HuwEdwards]

she won't. she's your dd

[tab1]

thanks

[Seeline]

You just need to stick to your rules. As she gets older you can explain to her the importance of good manner and behaving well. When my children are led astray by others (including family) I still remind mine of how they should be behaving - if other parents see it as a dig at how their children are behaving, they're right! Generally though I find that mine do know how to behave, and do so when they need to ie not necessarily when we're at home

[pointydog]

Other people's manners will affect her to some extent but you're the parent so you should be able to get her to behave as you'd like.

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it's hard when it's family as if i correct her it looks like i'm digging at their bad manners. perhaps they need it.

[Elkat]

I think you've hit the nail on the head there! We have quite strict table manners with our DDs, and it is really difficult enforcing them when you're out with children who are doing the exact the same thing you're constantly telling your children not to do. Particularly when they pipe up 'But XX is doing it mum'. That said, they'll soon learn your rules and by the time your DD is old enough - about 4 or so to notice what he cousin is doing, her cousin will be about 11 by then and you'll be able to use the excuse that she is older, or something.

[tab1]

lets hope so