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OFSTEDoutstanding Wed 06-Aug-08 10:00:17

I am a CM and I am due to give birth in 2 1/2 weeks and am intending on working right up until I go into labour, as I have said on other threads there is too much competition round here for me to take too much time off so will be only taking 2 weeks leave after baby as well so long as delivery goes as well as it did with ds.

All of my parents have been great with this arrangement except one whos attitude seems to be 'well lets hope that you have it in the holidays as then it wont effect us and you will be back to work to collect X on first day back of term' BTW he is a term time only contract and I have had alot of issues with him, he is 5 and has taught my ds (3) some really nasty habits, I have to stand over him when he goes to the loo or he wees on the floor on purpose and runs the tap and says he has washed his hands, his table manners are appalling and my ds is copying and I can't leave him alone in the room for a second as he takes toys off of the younger ones and makes them cry .

As of September I lose 2 of my afterschoolies anyway as I am no longer willing to do after school activity runs and another mindee goes to senior school so wont need the care. The more I think about it the more I do not want this mindee back I have not had him for nearly 3 weeks and it has been lovely ds is back to his old much nicer self and there is no pressure to stay switched on at all times in case the mindee misbehaves.

The mother is expecting him to come back to me 2 weeks after baby born but WIBU if I gave notice (my contract says 2 weeks required) and told her that as of Sept I have decided to not take back my after schoolies. FWIW I know she has been looking for alternative care so am expecting her to do same to me.

Sorry its so long but would love advice from both CM and Parents. TIA
(Also posted in Childminders etc)

scanner Wed 06-Aug-08 10:08:13

Not unreassonable at all, you'll be giving the required notice his parents are already looking at alternative childcare and life it too short to do something you don't have to.

Fwiw, I wouldn't say it's because you're not continuing the after school session in case you change your mind in the next few months. Do you have to give a reason? Could you just say that he's the only after school and while the new baby is so young you'd like to drop that option for the short-term?

ladymariner Wed 06-Aug-08 10:19:51

YANBU. You are giving the required notice, you don't have to give a reason. He sounds a nightmare, why would you put up with that if you didn't have to? And I wouldn't want him near a new-born, tbh!

Uriel Wed 06-Aug-08 10:22:18


reallyannoyednow Wed 06-Aug-08 10:22:22

why put up with the stress? neither child nor parents sound nice, get rid!

TheCrackFox Wed 06-Aug-08 10:44:08

YANBU - i know you are running a business but it is still your home and I wouldn't be too keen in having this boy in my house.

kitbit Wed 06-Aug-08 10:44:46

I would give notice. Although it's obviously your living, I'd put the priority of your own children first in this case as his presence seems to be so detrimental. Also ladymariner said, I wouldn't want him near a newborn by the sound of it!

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