my darling dad has sent a cheque for our hols lovely of him and I am very grateful. but can't help being a bit annoyed. he writes down what it is for so. £ for 2shoes and mr 2shoes £ 25 for dd and then........ £50 for ds as he is older. no biggie as dd has sn so not brill with none the wiser and I can top it up.
but why do they do this, ok she has cp and is severley disabled but..... and I know they prbally just want to make it up to ds
i dont think it was done intentionally to be cruel (nor do u ,i know) i wonder if your dad is from the generation that s.n people were treated as infants all their life and he actually thinks hes the one being liberal giving her a cash allowance too?
I think some people, maybe particularly the older generation, see age as a more heirarchical thing so it made sense in his mind to give more money to the older child. I wouldnt read any more into it than that, and as someone else said, surely you can re-distribute the money anyway! I think I would just be grateful that a parent gave me spending money for my hols!!
thanks tbh I knew I was being a bit unreasonable. I think they think that dd gets more of our time, so give ds more money. funny thing is dd hates spending her money so I have to pretend we are spending mine
I have an Aunty Peggy who always gave me, sis and bro different amounts of money/vouchers - for varying reasons! Mainly due to age, also if you had had exams, sometimes no reason! As soon as bro got a job at 18 or whatever, presents stopped completely "as he's earning now!" Bless, we all love her.