to be really rather pee'd off with my mother??

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She was taking my gran to a funeral this morning, I spoke to her yesterday on the phone and she said funeral was at 10:30am and they were only staying for the service, not the wake afterwards.

She said she was going to come to my house straight after as its been a while since she has seen the kids.

I asked her if she would be able to run us to the bank (we don't drive) as the loan we have is due a payment on Monday, usually its direct debited but DH had to cancel it this month as his bank is being arsey over charges.

Anyway, the loan ISN'T with our bank, its a different one, about an hours bus ride away, but 20 min drive.

My mum said she would take us.

She hasn't turned up.

Noone knows where she is, is still with my gran as Ive rang her house and she isn't home.

I understand things happen, BUT AIBU to expect a phone call to say

'Sorry I can't make it today to take you to the bank, your DH will have to jump on the bus after all'

Rather than us sat here waiting ALL day, and now its too late.

We are going to get a late payment charge against us and charged a late fee from THEM as well now

Last thing we bloody need

Im not bothered she couldn't take us, we were going to 'bus it' anyway, i just wanted a phone call so say that, so we could get there on time.

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Plus we have worked hard to make sure payments are always on time for the last year, we were hoping to borrow some more money after christmas and now I'm worried they wont let us!

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yes and no, a phonecall would have helped but she is at a funeral so its forgiveable

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She was at a funeral, at 10:30 this morning.

Lord knows where she is now!

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Bloody money, Im sick of it.

I need to start playing the lottery.

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Could you have called her as it got nearer the time when you would have not been able to use the bus? Or just assumed that she wasn't coming and got the bus (or told your DH to get the bus) as it got later on in the day? Yes, she could have called you but she was at a funeral with your gran, you don't know if your gran decided to go to the wake after all. I think you need to take some responsibility for not tackling the situation as time went on and I don't think that you can blame your mum for your the late charges as surely you still have tomorrow and saturday morning to make a payment?