Yesterday was DD1's birthday. She was 20. My DP spent the week mowing and raking the lawn, tidying the garden, etc so she could have a barbeque with her friends. He bought the food, the barbeque itself, and the drinks.
XH2 (who was her step-dad for 14 years) gave her £50 in her card.
XH1 (her dad) called and said she didn't need his money anymore, so he wasn't sending her any. He has never, ever sent a card, but often comes down on birthdays and Christmas to give them a present or cash, until he got remarried and had 3 more children.
I called him and said I thought his behaviour was 'bloody unbelievable'. If he had told her he was broke, she would have understood it, but he has basically said she is entitled to nothing from him anymore. And he's never paid a bloody penny maintenance for her, all her life.
i think his behaviour is absolutely disgusting but sadly all too common. my father has also done something similar and we haven't seen him for five years plus since he remarried. it is hard but it is his loss, not your daughter's. ((((((((((((((((((cw and miss cw))))))))))))))))))))
Im 23, married with 3dc and my dad gave me £20 the other day for 'girl stuff'. the point im trying to make is that as a parent you sign up to provide and especially to acknowledge your dc on their bdays!
Oh, he deserves a whole flock of birds to develop severe diarrhoea just as they fly over his head. Every time he goes out of the house. Bloody man. Obviously your dp and her ex-stepdad are better parents than her biological father...
ohh i'v got one of those, never paid a fucking penny, only sends cards, never calls etc - fucking twat , don't worry, your dd, like mine, has other, better men in her life. the only people to miss out are the feckless bastards who will only realise waht they have lost when they die old, sad and lonely, having reaped what they have sown (i really mean that big as well!!!!)
I'm in my 40s and my parents still give birthday presents (sometimes I wish they wouldn't... ). But some people are just not into it - my PILs have never once given me a birthday card, even for "special" birthdays. Tbh, as long as they remember the dcs birthday, I don't really care any more...