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how long is it acceptable to leave a 7 year old upset after a telling-off at bedtime in your opinion

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Twiglett Tue 29-Jul-08 20:06:26

particularly if

1) he did something really stupid
2) he owned up when his younger sister was being told off for it by saying 'no it was me'
3) he got really told off

DH and I having, well let's call it, a difference of opinion

misdee Tue 29-Jul-08 20:07:14

i say, dont let him fall asleep on it.

StormInanEcup Tue 29-Jul-08 20:09:12

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NotQuiteCockney Tue 29-Jul-08 20:09:22

I'd comfort him. You need to let bygones be bygones, particularly at bedtime.

It's really good that he owned up.

Hecate Tue 29-Jul-08 20:09:36

I would never leave a child upset at bedtime. Going to sleep sad and upset is awful. Things always seem worse at night and there's nothing more upsetting than lying awake feeling bloody rotten.

I'd go up and make sure they knew it was the behaviour that was the issue, and I'd go cheer them up and make them feel happy.

I'm a tough old boot, but the idea of my child going to bed feeling sad or going to bed feeling really hungry are 2 things that turn me into a soppy old thing! grin

Twiglett Tue 29-Jul-08 20:14:58

oh god I went up after about 20 minutes to tell him how proud I was of him for being honourable but what a silly thing he'd done and explained why it was silly

the thing is he wasn't audibly upset (ie we couldn't hear him downstairs), but he was lying at the foot of his bed in quiet tears (which I knew he would be, so DH must have known too)

DH was telling me to let him stew and refusign to go up and talk to him (it was his telling off which is another matter altogether)

eekamoose Tue 29-Jul-08 20:15:05

How do your opinions differ? Can you meet somewhere in the middle?

He did well to own up. At some point you'll have to make up, so best to do it before too long and everyone can have a good night's sleep. <strokes Twig, stroke, stroke, calm, calm, you know he's a lovely boy really>. He will have got the message.

Hecate Tue 29-Jul-08 20:18:19

oh no, it's just horrible to leave a child to go to sleep upset. It's the worst feeling in the world, crying yourself to sleep. sad

mumeeee Tue 29-Jul-08 22:44:14

Don't let him go to bed still upset.

Gobbledigook Tue 29-Jul-08 22:50:27

I wouldn't let mine go to sleep upset. So I'd give him time to think about it, then I'd go and have a chat about why I was cross etc etc and then I'd have a chat about something completely unrelated and happy and then kiss goodnight saying 'I love you'.

Dynamicnanny Wed 30-Jul-08 10:15:17

How is he this morning? What did he do [nosey]

ReallyTired Wed 30-Jul-08 10:20:43

I think that you should tell him that you are proud of him for owning up. Otherwise he will just let his sister take the flack next time.

Then tell that you think what he did was stupid.

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