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to be shocked at a 4 day old baby out shopping...

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mrschop Tue 29-Jul-08 19:45:14

with his mother of course. But - four days after giving birth you should be resting, recovering, letting all your innards get back to where they should be. Surely not marching around a shopping centre?

And even if the mother is OK to be out and about, shouldn't newborns be given bit of time at home to adjust to being born? Mine didn't leave the house for a week, and then only a short walk up the road.

Am I really old fashioned in thinking that a week or two of rest, peace and quiet (and no germs from random strangers) is the normal thing to do with a new baby?

nappyaddict Tue 29-Jul-08 19:46:10

YABU - i went shopping with ds the day after he was born.

MarsLady Tue 29-Jul-08 19:47:01

I always recommend a week in bed for my clients (or at the very least vegging at home).

Each to their own (but I get a fair few distress calls at 6wks post birth).

nickytwotimes Tue 29-Jul-08 19:47:01

It won't do the baby any harm.
I wanted peace and quiet, personally, but some people are just so proud of their lo they can't wait!

theSuburbanDryad Tue 29-Jul-08 19:47:30


We took ds to Toys R Us when he was 2 days old.

I would have gone nuts if i'd had to stay at home for 2 weeks!! So long as the mother is happy to be "marching around in a shopping centre" i don't see a problem with it! She probably wanted to show off her brand new baby and a posh pram! wink

pucca Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:00

I did too NA, the day after having dd i was in tesco doing a food shop lol, felt fine.

After ds i wasn't so quickly out and about as i had a section.

2point4kids Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:16

YABU maybe she had things she had to do!
I took DS2 to a soft play centre at 3 days old - DS1 was getting bored!

youcannotbeserious Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:49

yabu... DS was out for lunch at a week and he was out with me walking the dog the day he came home from hospital...

As a mother on my own all week, where I go, DS goes...

Not all women hve the option to not leave the house for a week or two

FruitynNutty Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:50

I went to Sainsburys local the day after I got out of hospital! DS was 3 days old and I'd had a c-section, midwife wasn't happy blush but I was desperate to get out and show off my beautiful baby grin

Janos Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:57

Maybe she was desperate to get out of the house, Or even just felt like it? Everyone's different.

Also how do you KNOW a baby is just 4 days old - unless you ask? Bit puzzled by that one.

Springflower Tue 29-Jul-08 19:48:57

I was out and about during the first week - hairdressers, shopping, walks etc. Why not if you're fine and the babies fine? YABU!

thequietone Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:13

I went to Wagamama 3 days after DS1 was born. Best thing I did, as I was there 5 days previously when the contractions started. They remembered me and we got whatever we wanted for free, as a congratulations on the birth!! We didn't take the piss and ordered nothing extra but what a wonderful surprise!

TheArmadillo Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:16

maybe it was stuff she needed to get and felt she had no choice.

I know lots who were doing the weekly food shop the day after giving birth (none with first though).

If you have other children, life doesn't stop because you've had another - I presume most have to take older kids to school, get food etc etc if they have no one else on hand to do it.

meglet Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:33

I think if the mum feels like she needs to get out then it's fine. Especially as the weather is so nice. I went mad being cooped up at home. I had a cs and hated being slowed down for a few weeks.

Amethyst86 Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:34

I took ds out shopping to Asda after 2 weeks and overheard a couple commenting on him being far too young to be out. They were with 4 older kids and were obviously the experts on child rearing. I was really gutted actually and went home in tears feeling like a terrible Mother. Go out when you feel ready I say. YABU.

TheMadHouse Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:35

I was in waitrose 2 days post c-section. We had to didnt have anything in at all, was medicated and not breast feeding. Didnt have bottles or anything shock

Did get a cup of tea from the nice ladies though

DanJARMouse Tue 29-Jul-08 19:49:55

The biggest mistake I ever made - doing stuff after birth.

With both girls I was high as a kite, couldnt stop me. Had them out at 24hrs old.

DS born last november, hardly saw anyone for weeks.

Needed the rest.

DoubleBluff Tue 29-Jul-08 19:50:42


thelittlestbadger Tue 29-Jul-08 19:50:53

Why is it any of your business if the parents are happy with it? I had a normal and easy delivery so took DD out for walks round the local park in the sling from about 2 days old. I felt fine, she slept, it got us out of our rather cramped and hot flat, why should we have stayed in to suit someone else's notions of what is appropriate?

StarlightMcKenzie Tue 29-Jul-08 19:50:53

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hellsbells76 Tue 29-Jul-08 19:51:18

YABU - it's none of your business and what was right for you isn't necessarily right for everyone. i was up and about the day after dd was born (had to go to the shops to replace all the tea the midwives had drunk and take ds to preschool) and i felt great, didn't want to be cooped up in the house any longer than a day. dd was quite happy in her sling and didn't seem to mind at all. each to their own etc.

southeastastra Tue 29-Jul-08 19:51:21

i went to tesco about 4 days after a csection too, mw was angry in case i'd bump into someone. left the baby at home though

beansprout Tue 29-Jul-08 19:51:34

What a strange thing to judge someone about? Perhaps she needed something? hmm

Good on her for feeling well enough to go out I say.

edam Tue 29-Jul-08 19:51:41

OP sounds like my Mum. Who acted as if my announcement 'I think I'll just pop to the corner shop' was a declaration of war on my vulnerable, precious newborn! Apparently shops are full of EVIL people with GERMs who are just waiting for the opportunity to pounce on babies...

southeastastra Tue 29-Jul-08 19:51:52

i would be shocked at a four day old baby shopping alone though

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