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In wanting DH to take an interest in naming our baby? Or if not just let ME get on with it??

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DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 20:50:58

EVERYTHING I suggest he says 'nah, don't like it, its tooo....'

girly
german
old- sounding
etc...

Arghhhh!!!

Which is fair enough if he were making suggestions HE likes, but no, if I ask him well what kind of names do you like he just says 'dunno'.

So if he 'doesn't know' then why can't I just choose??

Its pissing me off!

MamaG Mon 28-Jul-08 20:56:31

give him a baby name book, a pad and a pen

tell him if he doesn't list at least 5 that he likes, you're calling hte baby [insert girly old german name here] without his consent

DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 20:57:14

I want to call her Lydia <sniffs>

MamaG Mon 28-Jul-08 20:57:56

I think that is a fantastic name, I really do. Do try to persuade him! I wanted that for this baby, but its a boy grin

DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 20:59:17

He didn't like DS2s name either, but I just kept using it whilst he was in my tummy and so it stuck, he loves it now, (Dexter)

I might just keep on calling her Lydia till it sounds natural to him!

MamaG Mon 28-Jul-08 21:01:40

<snort> I've done that with this baby's name! I always get my own way grin

my mate just shook her head when I told her DH has agreed to the names I originally wanted grin

constancereader Mon 28-Jul-08 21:03:00

You have to use Lydia, it is so lovely.

Cicatrice Mon 28-Jul-08 21:03:32

I liked Lydia but DH blew it out of the water, it didn't get onto the top 5. I think it was because I made him watch Pride & Prejudice and Lydia is a bit of a PITA.

Go through a baby book. Do twenty each and then see if there are any crossovers and work from there.

If there are no crossovers you may have to make a name up.

DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 21:05:07

I was thinking more this Lydia than pride and prejudice!

lol

PortAndLemon Mon 28-Jul-08 21:06:02

Lydia is lovely. DH has an ex-girlfriend named Lydia, otherwise it would have been a top contender for us.

cafebistro Mon 28-Jul-08 21:16:25

My dp did this when i was pregnant with ds. Everytime i brought up the subject of baby names he wouldnt discuss it or have any input apart from to say he didnt like names i suggested.
As a result my ds spent the first 12 days of his life without a name shock. We actually decided on his name in the car on the way to register him , he hasnt got a middle name as we couldnt agree on one fast enough!
Second time round we had a final decision on first and second names for both sexes weeks before the birth.wink

elmoandella Mon 28-Jul-08 21:18:24

pmsl grin "german"

pgwithnumber3 Mon 28-Jul-08 21:20:19

Ditto here with DH and names, I have to ask the Mumsnet Massive for any opinions as DH just doesn't have one!

TenaciousG Mon 28-Jul-08 21:41:59

I also really liked Lydia, yet was vetoed by dp. A pattern emerges. It is a beautiful name. What doesn't he like about it? (my dp vetoed it because he used to work with a right bitch called Lydia).

DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 22:29:59

He says Lydia sounds german! hmm

cadelaide Mon 28-Jul-08 22:32:01

Oh I had this.

Two of mine were registered on the last day of the six weeks after birth.

With both he chucked in another name on the journey.

halogen Mon 28-Jul-08 22:41:14

Lydia is a brilliant name. Is it your first baby? I only ask because if it is then he'll probably let you call it anything you like after you've given birth...

And if it comforts you at all, my partner suggested Gillian and Karen (we have a Tabitha).

TenaciousG Mon 28-Jul-08 22:43:06

Lydia sounds German? hmm indeed.

VictorianSqualor Mon 28-Jul-08 22:44:45

I really like Lydia, also love Leah, that was on my list of DS2 had been a DD.

CuckooClockWise Mon 28-Jul-08 22:46:44

I like Lydia. Very elegant and feminine and pretty but not frilly.

It is also very 'steady' in the charts, it has hovered between 70 and 80 for the last 5 or 6 yrs, so it's nver going to skyrocket up the charts.

CuckooClockWise Mon 28-Jul-08 22:49:06

I think Gillian is lovely. I would spell it with a J though, Jillian looks fresher. Karen will be boring for another 40 yrs though. Not horrible, but just .... blah.

DisenchantedPlusBump Mon 28-Jul-08 22:51:47

Ewww Gillians awful
(MILs name) wink

hester Mon 28-Jul-08 22:53:49

I really like Lydia.

thisisyesterday Mon 28-Jul-08 22:54:59

I had the same problem.

so, I sat down with name books and wrote lists of names I liked.

then I gave the lists to DP and made him pick the ones he liked too (ensuring that it will be one I love, see what I did there? hehe)

TenaciousG Mon 28-Jul-08 22:58:00

Ahem. I think Gillian is a beautiful name, a name for a glamorous sex goddess who drives men wild and yet is also quietly intellectual and wickedly humorous. That's just my unbiased opinion.

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