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to think the my brother shouldn't come & take food from our already nearly empty freezer. Harumph. :(

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HappyNewYearFeet06 · 28/07/2008 10:37

Ok,

my bro is 27. Has never had a job that he has held down for more than 2 minutes and just drifts from one persons house to the next.

His most recent 'girlfriend' has 4 kids and doesn't work herself. My brtoher can't even look after himself let alone some bird and her 4 kids.

Anyway, this morning he turns up at mine. Goes into the garage, comes out. Says he has taen some food as they don't have any money for shopping until tomorrow and he will replace what he has taken. Well I have heard that many times before.

So off he goes. I go and have a look in the freezer and he has taken loads. I am so cross its unbelievable.

Its the end of the month so it always gets a bit tight moneywise for us and we have to make do for a few days until wages etc.... come in. However, we manange. Not now that he has takne most of our food.

I have had enough of the sponging little git, who should have a full time job and stop shacking up with women who have kids and don't work themsleves.

Sorry, rant over.

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Freckle · 28/07/2008 10:43

Get a padlock for the freezer. Tell him you want paying for what he has taken and make sure that he does.

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cocolepew · 28/07/2008 10:45

Go and take it back, and tell him to budget like you have too.

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Sparkletastic · 28/07/2008 10:47

Go and get it back now!!

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RubySlippers · 28/07/2008 10:47

i would have escorted him to the freezer and let him take the barest minimum

you need to lay some boundaries

make sure you do get the food back this time

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DustyTV · 28/07/2008 10:47

YANBU, go take it back off him. I second getting a padlock.

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Anglepoise · 28/07/2008 10:50

He's taking the piss. I'd lend my brothers food or borrow it off them but I'd check what they/I could take rather than assuming.

Failing going and getting it back (I'm rubbish at confrontation, so probably couldn't), I agree with getting a padlock and telling him no.

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HappyNewYearFeet06 · 28/07/2008 10:55

I don't drive so going to get it back isn't really an option. He lives about 20 minute walk away which I wouldn't mind but I'm not dragging the 3 children with me!!

I won't get it back, I have heard it so many times before when he asks to borrow money etc...

What annoys me is that we were at my parents yesterday and he phoned my Dad to ask to borrow £20 for a bike part. Well he could have used that for food, not a bike part. Plus, they are't even his kids so why should he have to provide for them.

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RubySlippers · 28/07/2008 10:57

well it isn't the childrens' fault is it?

i think it is time for some tough love

if someone always gets bailed out then they have no incentive to change

so, next time he asks for something you say no

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electricluluarella · 28/07/2008 10:58

if he will hve money tomorrow, he did not need to empty your freezer, only take enough for one or two meals.

why does he not have a job? is he unwell?

go back and get the food back, leave him enough for today and put your foot down.

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HappyNewYearFeet06 · 28/07/2008 11:13

He is not unwell. Just doesn't have the motivation to get a job.

Would you get a job if you could just roll into whoever's house you felt like whenever you wanted to. Be housed, fed, watered etc... All for free???

He then has all day to spend doing what he likes. Staying up late, then getting up at midday, going to the skate park, taking bikes apart and rebuilding them, sitting in the sun.

You get the picture!!!

He then had the cheek to say that one of his birds kids who is 16. Just finished school and done GCSE'S, is a pian in the butt and has no motivation to go to college or get a job. I was when he said that. The boy is lovely as he comes round here and plays with my ds and he is so polite but if he doesn;t have 2 decent roll models in the house to learn from then he isn't going to be motivated either.