OK, this is kind of academic, but not sure why this bothered me, or whether I was right to be a bit iffy about it.
I am going to a party tonight (godparents ruby wedding party), along with my parents, sister and DH. He is working till 5 and the party started at 4, so the others have gone ahead and I will pick DH up after work and go straight there. Parents suggested that they take DD (6 months), so that I don't have to juggle getting myslef ready with getting her ready, and potentially needing a feed/nappy change just as I need to go.
I agreed, but it has seemed a bit wierd and I'm not sure why, or if it should. The only thing I am aware of thinking is that I want to be there when everyone sees her and says how lovely she is (most people have met her before, but not seen her for a while). Also, I live with my parents, and it sometimes feels as if they are telling me what to do with her (I could cope with that if I was a 16 year old mum, but I am 28!!), and this feels a bit like they are taking her as 'their' child to show off. I really shouldn't feel like that, as they never act like that really, but it just feels a bit wierd.
So, AIBU to have not wanted her to go with them? (It has been lovely to be able to get ready with out distractions!! )
It is not as if they are taking a newborn and parading her.
""Also, I live with my parents, and it sometimes feels as if they are telling me what to do with her (I could cope with that if I was a 16 year old mum, but I am 28!!), and this feels a bit like they are taking her as 'their' child to show off. I really shouldn't feel like that, as they never act like that really, but it just feels a bit wierd.""
So you, your DH and your DC live with your parents and they are trying to give you some space....
Why do you live with your parents ??
Are you being a tad ungrateful, or are they very controlling people ??
I know how you mean...... I would feel a bit similar, in someways though because i am just a little insecure and walking in with a child would take the focus off me!! iyswim? Let them take dd and just enjoy the space for a change...... oh so easier said than done!!! they will probably be glad to hand her back when you arrive then rather than spend the whole evening trying to get her of you to parade!!!!
Hi, thanks for responses, this is the first time I have been able to get online since. I knew I was being a bit unreasonable, guess its just living at home again is making me a bit touchy (we are here to save money so we can buy in a couple of years).