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AIBU To Feel A Tiny Thrill Of Pleasure...

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LeQueen Sat 26-Jul-08 08:57:18

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beeny Sat 26-Jul-08 08:58:59

Who is this

LyraSilvertongue Sat 26-Jul-08 08:59:56

YANBU, but keep it to yourself wink

RubySlippers Sat 26-Jul-08 09:01:16


how devastating for her and her children i assume

it isn't nice if someone is unpleasant to you, but not on a par with the breakup of a marriage

LeQueen Sat 26-Jul-08 09:05:56

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Kimi Sat 26-Jul-08 09:06:10

YANBU to feel as you do, it is human, I think yo are being a tad unreasonable to post about it as you so know you will be flamed.

AbbeyA Sat 26-Jul-08 09:06:17

It is only human to have those feelings, the important thing is to keep them to yourself and not let people know who it is.

LeQueen Sat 26-Jul-08 09:09:57

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LeQueen Sat 26-Jul-08 09:12:47

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AbbeyA Sat 26-Jul-08 09:15:30

I wouldn't like my reaction (or admit to it) but to be honest I would feel the same as you!

CoteDAzur Sat 26-Jul-08 09:17:31

YABU to rub in the salt like this, knowing she will probably read this thread.

LyraSilvertongue Sat 26-Jul-08 09:22:00

Why would she read this thread, cotedazur?

Kimi Sat 26-Jul-08 09:30:56

When my hated SILs hubby ran off (after 3 afairs) I did give a little grin (she knicked him off someone else so knew he was a cheat but she thought he would change...every time he did it she thought he would change)

Also when I was told that the child that spent 3 years bullying my son got really badly beaten up at his new school (not just a little slap broken jaw) I admit I smiled all day.

It is human, and although not everyone would admit to it most people feel like it, want to or not

electricluluarella Sat 26-Jul-08 09:31:14

if she uses MN you are definitely unreasonable and cruel

i cannot imagine ever having a tiny thrill of pleasure if someone's marriage broke up, even if they had been hideous to me.

maybe they were horrible due to the stress of an impending marital breakdown

so , IMO YABU,but at least you recognise that this is not a nice way to feel.

LyraSilvertongue Sat 26-Jul-08 09:34:31

The OP said 'another discussion board'.
Ie, not MN.

electricluluarella Sat 26-Jul-08 09:35:42

lots of people use several discussion boards, not beyond the realms of possibility this person uses/ lurks on MN.

zookeeper Sat 26-Jul-08 09:37:00

hmmm don't know who she is but your post says so much more about you than her.

There are some people on this site that I feel are bitches and who no doubt feel the same about me but I honestly don't think I'd feel pleasure at something like this happening to anybody.

So ime YABU .

And ime you are a bitch.

kittywise Sat 26-Jul-08 09:40:25

I would most likely feel the same way as you that she had it coming.
I would keep it to myself thoughgrin

madamez Sat 26-Jul-08 09:50:35

Well I have been rather gleeful that an acquaintance is banged up on remand awaiting sentence at the moment, because if anyone deserves some time behind bars it's this fucker. He might even get five years

Lizzylou Sat 26-Jul-08 09:55:07

I think it's human nature to feel this, not pretty, but understandable
I would prob not admit it (esp not on here!) but would secretly feel the same.
YANBU, but you are very brave to admit it!

edam Sat 26-Jul-08 09:59:17

Don't blame you - think schadenfreude is only natural. BUT it is important to keep it to yourself (assuming she doesn't so much as lurk on MN...)

wb Sat 26-Jul-08 10:03:13

YANBU, just human.

LeQueen Sat 26-Jul-08 11:29:08

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nametaken Sat 26-Jul-08 11:57:15


Her children must be in terrible pain and you feel pleasure sad

PotPourri Sat 26-Jul-08 12:01:23

It's natural. And I think it is holier than thou for people to think that you can control such natural feelings. However, under no circumstances should you say it on the other board. And do not post a sympathetic posting for her either, that would be two faced. Just count your own blessings and move on.

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