to feel murderous towards DH for being gloaty about his lavish work freebie night out?

[KT14]

He's been trying to call me all day purely to let me know he has an invite to a sell out concert that he knows I'd really like to go to, but I know he's not really bothered about (no partners allowed), complete with dinner, hospitality box and swanky London hotel.

I know he works hard, his job gets us nice things, and I don't normally begrudge him the various perks he gets, but after a really crap week feeling fluey and stuck at home with 2 under 3's this has really wound me up. Needless to say, he's accepted without even asking me first (although I wouldn't have said no.) and it means another 2 nights away from home which feels like double during the loooooooong summer hols with no playgroups.

AIBU?

[bogie]

yanbu this is the sort of thing dp does all the time he rang me at 4 saying he won't be back untill about 10 because he is going for a game of golf with his boss

[talilac]

Payback is required.

Book a fabulous day or night out with girlfriends doing something he'd love, then leave him with the kids. Tell him all about it in exhaustive detail afterwards.

[eandz]

my husband knows better than to accept anything the brokers offer unless it's for two. i stipulated it after he got tickets to an f1 race in Turkey last year. I went too, and after that i felt like if i was a good enough wife to make him a relaxed and happy worker i was entitled to his perks too...now i admit that i am a very unreasonable woman.

[Turniphead1]

YANBU

Recently all of my DH's brokers stuff has included "the wifes" as they refer to it (grrr) - so have been to some very lovely places.

[eandz]

oh, my h's brokers just always offer two or more since not all of h's co workers are faithful to their wives. it's very socially awkward when you run into someones date as opposed to the wife you met just weeks ago.

[Lovesdogsandcats]

these 'brokers' sound like a right bunch of tossers.

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

they are Lovesdogs!

DP does this sort of thing all the time too it really pisses me off, especially as he often doesn't call to tell me about the last minute things

Actually i just spoke to DP about half an hour ago and i get the feeling that he's going out tonight from the way he spoke, was just a bit vague about when he was coming home

I don't mind if i know, even at short notice, but i really hate it when he buggers off on a friday night without telling me

i shall wait and see


btw YANBU

[KT14]

thanks all, have made my dissatisfaction very clear to DH on his return from work and after an Indian takeaway and 2 large glasses of wine (while he bathed both offspring) things don't seem so bad.
But if he brings me back a sodding concert programme he will have it shredded and rammed up his backside.

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

which concert is he going to KT14?

DP just phoned and i had the 'oh didn't i tell you i was going for a beer thought i'd mentioned it' speech

i wouldn't mind if it was work but its not and after being at home with 4 dc and 6mths pg on a very hot day i NEED someone else to take over

[KT14]

Feel for you Sparkles, I know the "oh, didn't I tell you?" routine well. No, you bloody didn't tell me and you know it. The other one is, "oh, that's been in the diary for ages." Aaaaaaaagh.

At the risk of sounding a tiny bit sad here, the concert's Kylie! Her shows are supposed to be amazing, and we had tickets to one a few years ago (the last one she did before her cancer was diagnosed) but I was 8.5 mths pregnant with DS1 and had to give up the tickets.

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

[KT14]

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
Everyone is going apart from me.
Stamps foot.

[MrsTiddles]

YABU

[KT14]

hang on though, if it's the O2 arena you're going to maybe you could stick 2 fingers up at DH for me. He'll be the one up in the box sipping champagne. Bastard.

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

Sorry

we went to the Showgirl concert, dp loves her so he got a couple of tickets for us this time too - he can be nice sometimes i guess

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

yes its at the O2 on monday 4th, let me know which one he is and i'll flick him the 'V' for you

[KT14]

That's the one Sparkles, he's 6ft 4 with sticky out ears. Will be wearing something non descript from White Stuff.
Have a great time, sounds like you deserve it!!

[sparklesandnowinefor13weeks]

I shall take my binoculars and hunt him out

I feel a bit guilty now

[TheGreatScootini]

YANBU..dh is always going off on 'conferences'(piss ups in swank hotels), golf days, sports afternoons (lots of Fridays as they work half days on Fridays in Summer), dinners after work blah blah.Wives and partners are never invited.
I work for a charidee so I never get work stuff like this and I always have to be home for 5 to pick the DD's up..

On the rare occasion I decided to go out after work and ask DH to pick the kids up he sighs and says 'its not easy for me to leave work at 5 y'know?
HA!But it is easy for me to walk out everyday at 4, in the middle of a crisis or whatever..grrr

[blueshoes]

Sorry KT14 that you cannot go.

What I am concerned about is that your dh did not check with you before accepting, when it involved 2 nights away from home when you have 2 under 3 at home. Especially since your dh does not care for Kylie.

It is an office bonding thing or a client entertainment thing? If the former, he would need A LOT of brownie points from me to spend it away from me for 2 nights. In fact, for my dh, whose office and client functions are numerous, the only time he is allowed to be away for that long for an office do is for his yearly partnership retreat, which is pretty much something he must show his face for, not some concert jolly.