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AIBU?

to feel guilty

21 replies

Blondilocks · 19/07/2008 20:42

for not taking DD anywhere exciting on holiday this year?

I've left it soo late to book a holiday abroad & read some really bad reviews which have totally put me off. I'd be taking her on my own so not feeling that brave to be honest.

I plan to do lots of fun things & day trips & visit family which she loves, but still feeling reeeeeaaaaallly guilty.

I hate these irrational feelings I get! I had loads of UK holidays when I was younger which were fab so don't really know why I 'm feeling so bad about this year.

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FrazzledFairyFay · 19/07/2008 20:44

I don't think you should feel bad at all - spending time with you, family and friends and doing fun trips, etc sounds perfect to me.

fanjolina · 19/07/2008 20:51

Don't feel bad. Sounds like you have some great plans for you and your DD. She'll be more than happy, I'm sure.

ninah · 19/07/2008 20:54

Sounds nice! most we'll make is a week in Cornwall, if that, dc love exploring round and about here.

youngbutnotdumb · 19/07/2008 21:04

From what I remember I didnt care where I went on holiday as long as there was a fair ground and my mum was playing games and buying me things I was happy LOL.

Blondilocks · 19/07/2008 21:06

Thanks for the reassurance.

Am just hoping it doesn't rain all the time!!!

We got a family railcard in the May half term so I think that's a good excuse to go further afield. It really is fab!

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bluefox · 19/07/2008 21:08

Dont feel guilty. Loads of people are having 'staycations' this year anyway cos of the prices of everything.

Ripeberry · 19/07/2008 21:14

Don't feel guilty. My parents NEVER took us on holidays because my dad did not like them and my mum had Agrophobia anyway.
We just used to go to our grandparents for a couple of weeks and the rest of the time played in the woods making dens and having campfires (without parents).
Quite a few famillies round here don't have any foreign holidays as they would never afford it with 6 or 7 kids anyway.
Having your company is the best thing.

whispywhisp · 19/07/2008 21:23

I had my eldest DD (aged 9) ask me the other day, in front of her mates...'are we poor?'. I asked her why she asked that and her reply was 'because we never go on holiday'. A lot of her mates go abroad every Summer. When the kids go back to school in September they all compare where they all went. Obviously DD1's contribution is 'home'!!!

In one word, yes, we are poor in so far as we simply can't afford a holiday and haven't been able to for a few years now.

But we can do lots of other things such as days out, spend quality time at home, in our lovely big garden, enjoying the (hopefully) lovely weather, with cupboards full of toys, and a garden shed full of outdoor toys!

I know its not the same as going away. I know kids love going away and the excitement it all brings but I just can't justify the £100s it would cost for us all to go away for just a few days.

whispywhisp · 19/07/2008 21:23

OP...you must not feel guilty at all btw. I certainly don't. xx

noonki · 19/07/2008 21:36

best memories as a kid were camping in our backgarden,

we did go abroad a couple of times when I was older but nothing bettered those camping days

myfeethurt · 19/07/2008 21:39

speaking of camping in backgarden do you think 7 is too young to sleep in tent in backgarden?

whispywhisp · 19/07/2008 21:41

Camping...oh yes...we've done that in the back garden with the kids too. Last year we put our tent up for a week. It rained the whole time but we still lived in it. We treated it as a holiday despite being a few feet from the back door. It was really good fun actually and the kids slept so well! Cos we were at home we were able to keep up with the washing so no piles of it to bring home, the cats came in the tent with us and the dogs so no kennelling fees to pay. Even tho its a small space to share and live on top of each other we re-discovered board games, reading books, puzzles and generally having family fun!

Haven't decided what we're doing this year. DH has got two weeks off in August. Do loads of days out and loads of days in!

Hannah81 · 19/07/2008 21:43

We can't afford to go abroard this year - or holiday in this country either! But last weekend we went to a little campsite near longleat for the weekend and went to longleat safari park. my 3 1/2 year old loved it and camping with a 10wk old wasn't a problem either - there were no showers there, just a water tap in a field behind a pub, the toilets were open when the pub was open! Suppose thats another good thing about breastfeeding, you dont have to worry about sterilising in a campsite! It was very cheap, and we had the best time ever!
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whispywhisp · 19/07/2008 21:45

Hannah..what was the name of the site? We live quite near Longleat. xx

Ripeberry · 19/07/2008 21:59

We used to camp in the tiny back garden, it was not ideal as it was a slope and we used to do it every summer.
One night it got a bit cold and me and my brother wanted to go back in the house.
We had a key, but my mum had left the other key in the door so we could not get in.
It was a terraced house so could not go round the front, so ended up climbing up onto the flat roof and through the open window.
We were only 12yrs old.

wabbit · 19/07/2008 22:10

i'm going camping in my sister's field this summer... DP's idea and I think it's great we'll have sing song's round the campfire with the guitars and my dd and ds will be able to play with their cousins in the welsh mountains.
Don't feel guilty, dd's only ever been on two holidays abroad, she'll be 17 in Nov. She doesn't feel deprived!

Hannah81 · 20/07/2008 15:31

It was the Bell Inn in Buckland Dinham - very nice it was too!

Bronze · 20/07/2008 15:36

None of mine have been on holiday. In fact my last holiday was my honeymoon 6 years ago. One day we'll be able to afford to.

squilly · 20/07/2008 18:03

Yes. YABU. In my opinion, 6 weeks is too short a time to spend 2 weeks of it in a foreign country! Enjoy being home. Lazy days, park days, library days, museum days, cinema days...there's always so much to do. And it sounds like you're mentally prepared anyway.

We are going away for a few days this hols, but only because I bought a tent and want to try it out before we need it in March for a group holiday.

You shouldn't feel guilty at all. You'll have a ball.

MmeBovary · 20/07/2008 18:19

We're having a week at home and a week in UK to visit family. My dd is really excited to just to do the days out - and I must admit I'm glad I don't have to do loads of organising and packing. Only downside as far as I am concerned is that if you're home the housework still needs doing....You shouldn't feel guilty.

Blondilocks · 20/07/2008 19:09

Thanks everyone. There are some fantastic ideas there.

I don't think 7 is too young to sleep in the back garden, I think I did most summers from 6 to 14.

My friend has suggested a day at the beach & camping for the night - so we might do that too!

Have been collecting lots of coupons for days out. There are loads of places to go nearby & I guess you tend to overlook these a bit more.

I'll actually be working for the other 4 weeks of the holiday so I guess anything will be nicer than that!!

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