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is it rude to completely ignore guest in your house?

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nannyL Sat 19-Jul-08 18:31:25

is it rude to completely blank and not even acknowledge a guest in your house?

Opinions ASAP please.... been at my mums / step dads 2.5 hours and he hasnt even said hi.

also not even asked how i was since i nearly died in car crash 10 weeks ago

votes please as to if he is rude!

themoon66 Sat 19-Jul-08 18:32:34

He is rude.

PaulineMole1 Sat 19-Jul-08 18:32:45

Yes very rude is he always like this with you?

Have you said Hi to him BTW?

BetteNoire Sat 19-Jul-08 18:33:04

what does your mother say about his behaviour?

JulietBravo Sat 19-Jul-08 18:33:43

Amazingly rude.

Beetroot Sat 19-Jul-08 18:33:45

I woulod have made a beeline and said hello step dad - how are you today, what have you been up to. s lovely to see you

cocolepew Sat 19-Jul-08 18:35:00

I do this to MIL. It is rude.

cocolepew Sat 19-Jul-08 18:35:00

I do this to MIL. It is rude.

nametaken Sat 19-Jul-08 21:32:57

I do what Beetroot does too.

Why do you go there. Get your mum to come to you.

noonki Sat 19-Jul-08 21:37:41

how long has he been your stepdad and is this benhaviour new?

tigermoth Sat 19-Jul-08 21:43:51

Is he vague with everyone or do you feel he would acknowledge any other guest?

WillyWonka Sat 19-Jul-08 21:47:57

I'd be tempted to sit in a chair nearby and give yourself a mini pedicure or similar. As and when he eventually objects (and he will by the time you start clipping your nails) simply say "oh I'm sorry, I didn't notice you there..." wink

ChukkyPig Sat 19-Jul-08 21:58:12

Oh god what a tosser mt ex's dad was like that. He just sat in front of the telly and ignored everything going on around him.

How is your mum with you? If it's fine with her I wouldn't worry about him. She is probably as embarassed as you are pissed off.

ChukkyPig Sat 19-Jul-08 22:01:27

And Nanny I hope you are over your car crash, it can really shake you up for a while, or even longer, when something like that happens. I hope you have recovered from your injuries.

ninedragons Sat 19-Jul-08 22:02:32

I hate this. I used to have a friend whose partner would walk into the house, walk straight past us sitting on the sofa without acknowledging we were there and shut himself in their bedroom. Very, very rude indeed.

nannyL Sun 20-Jul-08 00:49:25

yes well it got worse....

(no we dont get on, never had, but he has blanked me for 9 months so I refused to say the 1st hello)

end of long story.... he strangled me... yes i mean he put is hands round his neck and was strangling me until my mother walked in...
Yes we were in the middle of a heated discussion about his behaviour, and 'he told my mum to F* off, he was leaving', so i told him to 'go F* some elses mother' so he attacked me

Yes i know i MUST go to the police

nannyL Sun 20-Jul-08 00:52:01

thank you chikky pig.... my 'car crash headaches' had finaly stopped 2 weeks ago... until now...

last cranial osteopathy session she got my neck all back into place... so it will need to be 're-done'

I think the bit pre-arguemet was the fact that even to this moment he hasnt even asked how i am since that car crash! (according to him thats perfectly reasonable too hmm)

BetteNoire Sun 20-Jul-08 01:01:49

nannyL, that's awful. sad
Did you call the police?

KerryMum Sun 20-Jul-08 01:07:50

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KerryMum Sun 20-Jul-08 01:08:46

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nannyL Sun 20-Jul-08 01:14:37

yes he strangled me.... obviosuly not completely as i am still alive!

will speak to police tomorrow after i have told my dad.... its all so awkward as next weekend is my mums 50th birthday party.... been planned for 15 months, with 130 friends / relations and i really dont wanna ruin it for her, or create an 'atmosphere'.... but he sould have thought about that before he put his hadns round my neck.... right?

nannyL Sun 20-Jul-08 01:16:11

(was at my MUMS house visiting my mum....)

windygalestoday Sun 20-Jul-08 01:27:23

omg ......hes a twat, are u ok???

BetteNoire Sun 20-Jul-08 01:28:50

ring the police now, nannyL.

MrsMacaroon Sun 20-Jul-08 01:36:54

what's your mum saying to all this?

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