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To expect my DH to wait until I've finished being sick before going to work and leaving DS unattended?

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waitingtobloom Sat 19-Jul-08 16:02:40

ARGH! He knew I was being sick (still have morning sickness at 33 weeks pregnant) and he knew he was leaving DS (2 years old) alone eating yoghurt for breakfast yet he still left the house. He needed to leave for work apparently - he's self employed and working at a friends house so another 5 minutes would not have made a difference.

Last thing I heard was him shouting "are you ok" to which i mumbled "bleurgh" or something you mutter in between violent vomitting and then heard the door slam. Predictably when I got downstairs (as quick as possible in the situation) DS had covered the room and himself in yoghurt.

DH cant see the problem - he "needed" to go to work obviously.

Argh - more of a feeling sorry for myself rant than an AIBU! What I would give to make men pregnant for just a day...

Hecate Sat 19-Jul-08 16:06:43

yeah, YABU, it's not like you were going to fall down the loo! grin You were only being sick.

But sympathies anyway, morning sickness is bloody horrible, isn't it?

I too wish men could be pregnant - especially since my husband once remarked that if men gave birth there would be no fuss, they'd just do it down the pub between pints. He's lucky to have escaped with both balls still attached! grin

partaria Sat 19-Jul-08 16:15:27

But hecate it's more about what could have happened to op's ds ! Surely her dh could have waited a few more minutes ?

StellaWasADiver Sat 19-Jul-08 16:17:09

YAB a bit U

What if you had to be sick while he was at work?

kerryk Sat 19-Jul-08 16:19:18

yanbu fecking men.

i had morning sickness for 9 fecking months so know what you are feeling like.

it used to inconvenience dh to have to pull over so i could be sick at the side of the road hmm

i dont think its as much about what could have happened to ds, rather why should you be put in the position of having more work (cleaning up the yougurt) when you feel crap.

belgo Sat 19-Jul-08 16:22:12

YANBU. I think the problem is, if you are being sick a lot, then your dh has expected you to be used to it now, and he no longer sees it as being a big deal. When of course it is still a big deal! In fact, the more you vomit, the more painful and uncomfortable it becomes (speaking from experience).

Hecate Sat 19-Jul-08 16:22:42

Well, I remember when mine with babies and toddlers. I regularly went to the loo and left them in the living room. I used to go upstairs for a few minutes, or hang washing outside too! even small children are perfectly ok for a few minutes!

BetteNoire Sat 19-Jul-08 16:23:43

I would have been annoyed by that too, waitingtobloom.

Puke in his shoes tomorrow morning. grin

kerryk Sat 19-Jul-08 16:23:47

i left mine in the living room a lot younger than 2, but never with yougurt!!!

whatdayisit Sat 19-Jul-08 16:34:53

YABU - I was sick everyday, throughout the day, for 8 months with DS2, so DS1 was often unattended for a few minutes. DS1 was 2 when he was born. Was DH supposed to say at home for the whole pregnancy?

Yes it's rotten, but like a lot of things to do with being a parent, you just have to get on with it I'm afraid. Sorry.

belgo Sat 19-Jul-08 16:38:40

It would just have shown that he cared if he had stayed until you had finished. Sympathy and knowing some one cares is very important; it's not the same as expecting something unreasonable like being home the whole nine months.

lulumama Sat 19-Jul-08 16:39:30

are you more upset he left you mid puke or left DS unattended with food? i would not leave a 2 year old alone with yoghurt, only due to the potential mess,

waitingtobloom Sat 19-Jul-08 19:15:08

Lol - it was the fact that he could have waited two minutes so I wouldnt have to worry about the inevitable yoghurt mess. And the fact that he is not sick and could run away out the door, lol.

Believe me I am sick a lot whilst alone with DS - am now "only" sick two or three times a day - was being sick 10 - 15 times easily. DS learnt the phrase "mummy sick" quite early on.

And yes I leave him unattended for a few minutes whilst am in another room, cooking cleaning whatever - was the yoghurt situation.

So really its just the fact he doesnt have to be pregnant whilst I suffer through another pregnancy (and have to clean yoghurt up lol).

He's having the next one ;)

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 19:25:31

He is irresponsible as well as unsupportive; your ds could have choked if left alone

Hecate Sat 19-Jul-08 19:34:11

Choked on yoghurt? Blimey. At 2, mine were outside crunching on snails! grin
[negligent mother emoticon]

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 19:44:58

stop showing off hecate

ElfOnTheTopShelf Sat 19-Jul-08 19:48:26

On a yoghurt?

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 19:51:01

yes. stop showing off on a yoghurt.

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 19:51:01

yes. stop showing off on a yoghurt.

lucykate Sat 19-Jul-08 19:54:26

men do this kind of thing all the time, my dh went off to work one morning while i was sat on the loo with d&v, with dd sat on my knee, also with d&v holding the sick bowl ( iwas pg with ds at the time). i had to ring him on his mobile and say 'are you insane?, you need to come home now'

ElfOnTheTopShelf Sat 19-Jul-08 19:55:17

I dont understand what you mean by showing off about a yoghurt?

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 19:56:24

well you said it not me!

ElfOnTheTopShelf Sat 19-Jul-08 19:59:57

I still dont get it.

Podrick Sat 19-Jul-08 20:02:23

post 19:44:58 + post 19:48:26 = post 19:51:01

ElfOnTheTopShelf Sat 19-Jul-08 20:03:45

Sorry, x posted, I was actually asking if you really could choke on a yoghurt

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