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to be slightly jealous that DS MIGHT have said DaDa as his first word?

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thumbwitch Thu 17-Jul-08 23:30:02

He has been mumbling away for a few weeks now (he's 7 1/2mo) and almost said mama a couple of times but tonight he (almost certainly) said Dada, we think - and I am a bit peed off and envy.

I spend 90-95% of DS's waking time looking after him and although he loves that, and me, he is always overjoyed to see his daddy, which is lovely but also slightly off-peeing.

<sigh> - I'm probably just being a mean cow but it would have been nice if he had said mama first...

WendyWeber Thu 17-Jul-08 23:32:33

The word for father in most languages - dada, papa, abba - is made up of the noises all babies make before the word mama (harder noises come before softer noises)

I think it's pure psychology, to make fathers think "aw, he said my name" and stick around grin

MmeLindt Thu 17-Jul-08 23:32:44

Both my DCs said Papa long before Mama. The p and d sounds are easier for babies than m.

Did not stop me sitting with PFB DD saying, "mmmmmaaaammmmmma, mmmmmmmmmaaaaaaammmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaaa, mmmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmmma, come on, say mmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaaammmmmmmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaaa"

thumbwitch Thu 17-Jul-08 23:34:15

lol MmeLindt - me too!

Flibbertyjibbet Thu 17-Jul-08 23:35:45

If he can say dada he will know how to shout it in the night when he wants you.

I love it when I hear them crying 'daddy, daddy' in the night. I roll back over and say 'oh but they want YOU'

(Can't do that tonight though cos its my day off tomorrow, it only works when we are both working the next day)

MsDemeanor Thu 17-Jul-08 23:35:48

You daft bint grin 'duh' is a much easier consonant to say than 'muh' so babies babble 'duh' well before they babble 'muh'. They aren't actually saying anything! This is why mothers all over the world, desperate to make men stick around named fathers with words beginning with 'duh' so they could say "Oh look! He's saying 'daddy'" (subtext: 'stop worrying, he's definitely yours, please go and kill some bison for our tea')

Tinker Thu 17-Jul-08 23:36:56

It was one of my eldest's first "word" and she'd never even met him.

margoandjerry Thu 17-Jul-08 23:38:07

My DD does not have a daddy - has never met such a person, does not hear the word, does not know what it means. Her first repeated sound was dada and she said it over and over for months. It's just their easiest sound to say and men, the poor deluded fools, think the babies are talking about them wink

thumbwitch Thu 17-Jul-08 23:39:52

thank you kind ladies - feeling a little better; won't stop be doing the "say mama" thing though!! grin

lilolilmanchester Thu 17-Jul-08 23:41:22

I think this is normal, annoyingly. I remember being upset about the same thing too but I talked to DS incessantly, which I am sure most Mums do, and often about Daddy. "Bye Bye Daddy"; "that was Daddy on the phone"; "let's make Daddy's tea;
"Daddy's shaved and not rinsed the bloody sink again". So as well as the sounds being easier I bet your DS has heard "Daddy" more often than "Mummy"? Believe you me, as soon as they learn to shout Mummy, you'll be wishing they'd never learnt it! Meantime, enjoy it when he's calling out for Daddy on a morning and you can roll over and go back to sleep!

SummatAnNowt Thu 17-Jul-08 23:47:31


Why does it matter?!? It's not a competition!

lilolilmanchester Thu 17-Jul-08 23:49:40

Come on Summat, thumbwitch spends most of DS's waking time with him, tending to his every need, and then he says "dada" first? It upset me too when it happened.

thumbwitch Fri 18-Jul-08 00:23:35

Thanks lilolil

ThatBigGermanPrison Fri 18-Jul-08 00:25:06

You probably 'refer' to daddy more often than you refer to mummy (yourself) plus it's easier to say/

And I'm with |WendyWeber.

SummatAnNowt Fri 18-Jul-08 00:45:04

No, I still don't get why it matters. I spent most of my waking time with my ds and he said daddy for months before mummy, all it meant was that he can say the word daddy before the word mummy. He wasn't an adult, he wasn't ignoring me by not saying mummy first, I didn't need my hard work in looking after him validating by him.

becklespeckle Fri 18-Jul-08 00:56:15

Your DS will not be as excited to see you as he is to see his Daddy because in his little world he still thinks that you are part of him. Daddy is someone separate who appears occasionally to entertain him!

sandcastles Fri 18-Jul-08 01:32:59

He is actually not saying dada as in Dad, tbh.

Dada is the easiest first 'word' for babies as it requires little work from the lips, tongue, etc!

eidsvold Fri 18-Jul-08 01:41:25

those d b sounds are the first ones babies learn as they are easy sounds to make.

I will try and find you the link - states the order in which children generally learn their sounds. The harder consonants are easier for them to make.

As someone else said - they are not actually saying dada - meaning daddy but rather playing with sounds to see how it feels intheir mouths - like when they blow raspberries - working their lips etc.

BouncingTurtle Fri 18-Jul-08 07:26:40

I read somewhere that 40% or babies say dada as their first word, 30% say mama. I presume the other 30% say something like dog or baba or antidisestablishmentarianism. wink

I think it is because mum is generally the primary caregiver and they probably say "daddy" more than "mummy" - i.e. "Daddy's gone to work now" "say bye to Daddy" "Daddy's home now" etc.

YANBU though, I'd feel the same way if ds's first word was dada!

AbbeyA Fri 18-Jul-08 07:32:24

It doesn't mean anything. You are parents together-it is not a competition!

iBundle Fri 18-Jul-08 07:33:32

you probably talk about dada more than say your own name

tis good too when he wakes in night and says dada....

mm22bys Fri 18-Jul-08 07:41:42

D is easier to say than M.

My DS is 20 months, and he says mmmm. No Ds, and def no Dada.

Would be delighted if he did.

I am presuming this is your first child?

2point4kids Fri 18-Jul-08 08:01:41

Dont nearly all babies say Dada as their first word? Its just a sound to them at that point really, and the first one they are able to say clearly.

Nighbynight Fri 18-Jul-08 08:18:24

you sound like my mother. I think she resented that my first word wasn't "Mama"

why on earth should it be?

Bumdiddley Fri 18-Jul-08 10:21:59

DDs first word was 'no'. hmm

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