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To expect 'people' to remember DD's 1st birthday

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happypiglet Thu 17-Jul-08 16:45:58

DD is one today. She is my third DC so don't expect much but is it unreasonable to expect the following to send a card (on time) or even phone?
Mother in law!!!!
Both my brothers (one of whom has a DC and so knows how it feels!)
My father
All godparents

I know she doesn't care. But I do. Feeling sad- when DS1 was one it was like present fest here!!!

Love2bake Thu 17-Jul-08 16:49:42

I would never forget a family member.

Did forget my friends DS's 1st birthday last month though blush

meemar Thu 17-Jul-08 16:51:19

That is a shame - I would have least expected grandparents and godparents to send a card, especially as it's her first birthday.

I know it's a generalisation but mean are notoriously awful at remembering any birthdays, so not too surprised at your dad and brothers.

Hope she (and you) are having a lovely day anyway smile

litterbug Thu 17-Jul-08 16:51:51


lardybump Thu 17-Jul-08 16:52:02

How very sad. I would expect everyone to remember. You poor dd hope she had a wonderful day anyway. Happy birthday little happypiglet.

OverMyDeadBody Thu 17-Jul-08 16:52:53

no yanbu. It's not right to forget a family member's birthday.

happypiglet Thu 17-Jul-08 17:34:56

Ah thanks, not just me then. I suppose I have high standards I never forget family birthdays!!
PS she is having a lovely day

MsDemeanor Thu 17-Jul-08 17:42:35

I'd forget. I'm rubbish at birthdays. Doesn't mean I don't care. YOu have to remind them, or even better, invite them to a birthday tea. Hope you have a happy day

happypiglet Thu 17-Jul-08 17:46:14

Difficult as they all live hundreds of miles away!! You'd really forget your only grand daughters birthdaysad

MsDemeanor Thu 17-Jul-08 17:52:48

Yes, probably. I keep forgetting the date of my own daughter's birthday! I always forget my anniversary, and I forget my only goddaughter's birthday all the time (feck, think it's soon, better ring my friend!). You can't take it personally or assume it is because they don't love her. Just mention it when you are on the phone before the birthday. If they forget when you've told them a week beforehand, then you'd be more reasonable!

jammi Thu 17-Jul-08 19:24:19

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wb Thu 17-Jul-08 19:31:16

I would be very upset if my mum or MIL forgot one of the children's birthdays.....and absolutely astonished if anyone else in the family remembered them. My dad doesn't remember my birthday, for example, let alone his grandsons.

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