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to be angry that there are no female doctors..... untill wednesday!!!

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charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 11:48:16

everyone in the chat thread thinks i am but I have a right to see a female doctor and having to wait nearly a week to see one isnt good enough in my opinion. I have a valid reason for wanting to see a female doc and although im in a lot of pain I really cant see a male doctor!

lulumama Thu 17-Jul-08 11:49:17

can you see the nurse? not seen chat thread, sorry !

cheshirekitty Thu 17-Jul-08 11:54:48

Unfortunately it is supply and demand. Yes you have a right to see a female doctor, but the female doctor has a right to work the hours she is contracted for. She cannot be there 24/7 without taking breaks, days off etc.

charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 11:55:48

it here its just they made feel stupid for being angry, but under the circumstances i dont think im out of order for wanting a woman. dnt think the nurse wud be much help... i think i need to be referred to a specialist....

lulumama Thu 17-Jul-08 11:56:55

do you think you have a uterine infection? or is it something else

what about seeing a male doc with a female chaperone... i have had that before now when no female docs available

TsarChasm Thu 17-Jul-08 11:56:55

We're lucky if we can get an appt with a man or woman doctor within a week.

charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 11:58:40

i understand that cheshire but surely they should have more than 1 female doc... my mums surgery has loads.

mindalina Thu 17-Jul-08 11:59:03

I think your anger is understandable but I also think it's fairly normal to have to wait to see a female GP - at my surgery the female GP is only in on Mondays. I should imagine it just depends on the doctors at your surgery. Is there no other surgery nearby with a female GP you could see sooner?

Twinkie1 Thu 17-Jul-08 11:59:33

Male doctors know exactley the same as female ones - I wish women would get over their fear of seeing a male doctor - yours will not be the first one he has seen won't be the last and he would have seen whatever you have got at least a 100 times and far worse than you have it!

You have a right to see a member of the medical profession but not to pick and choose what sex they are - really if you were in that much pain you would see anyone.

And I have read your chat thread.

My ob gyn is a lovely man who would put anyone at ease - my midwife who delivered DS was an awful ranty cow who made me feel awful about myself and my baby.

lulumama Thu 17-Jul-08 11:59:41

depends on size of surgery and who applies for jobs etc.. in an ideal world you would be able to, but unfortunately it is not always possible.

charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 11:59:56

its to do with scar tissue from having ds... having dd has irritated the scars and basicly its very painful to go for a number 2.

WilyWombat Thu 17-Jul-08 12:00:42

Get an appointment with the nurse but mention to her you ideally would have liked to see a female doctor, If she thinks you need one she will probably call one in - well thats what happens in our surgery.

Agree its annoying but they cant work 24/7 as cheshirekitty said and a lot of the time they are juggling families the same as we are.

Twinkie1 Thu 17-Jul-08 12:01:16

I had that Charlotte my MALE ob gyn sorted it all out and am back to normal - believe me if you have to wait to see a female ob gyn you will be waiting forever.

You could always ask for one of the male doctors to have a sex change!

bristols Thu 17-Jul-08 12:01:54

Charlotte - maybe your Mum's surgery is bigger and has more doctors overall? Some surgeries have no female doctors at all. It may be worth seeing the nurse. She can liase with the GP and might be able to get him to refer you on her examination/findings.

MrsTittleMouse Thu 17-Jul-08 12:02:32

Normally I would agree that a male doctor would be fine - in fact I've found that sometimes they are more respectful as they understand full well that they have no idea what it feels like and behave appropriately.
However in this case charlotte121 doesn't want a male doctor because of a previous assault, and I think that that puts a very different slant on things. This isn't just an issue of preference.

RubyRioja Thu 17-Jul-08 12:04:02

COuld you visit your mum and have an emergency visitor appointment whilst there?

MamaChris Thu 17-Jul-08 12:04:32

I don't think YABU. I wouldn't see a male dr in your situation. but i also accept that being registered at the nice local surgery that only has a female once a week means i have to wait. can you not switch to a surgery with a female dr?

mazzystar Thu 17-Jul-08 12:05:11

You have my total sympathy -I would much rather see a female doctor for something like this. But you need to get it sorted, so please go to see someone!
I think if you feel so strongly about it you need to find a big group practice which has a higher number of female drs.

charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 12:05:47

Twinkie i think thats a bit of an unfair comment. Im not asking the impossible, just to see a female doctor. my dad died when I was only 8... I went to an all girls school so I never had any contact with men and then when I was a teenager I was assulted so I have a few issues when it comes to men in general.

2point4kids Thu 17-Jul-08 12:07:13

Maybe call out of hours docs when your normal surgery is closed and ask them if they have a female doc there?
I'm sure they'll understand if you explain why you did it that way.

WilyWombat Thu 17-Jul-08 12:07:50

Make an appointment to see the nurse and tell her all this, once you are a person rather than a voice on the phone hopefully they will help you.

charlotte121 Thu 17-Jul-08 12:07:52

i have an appointment to see my mums doctor tomorrow which is a relief.

lulumama Thu 17-Jul-08 12:09:41

if you are still under the care of the MW you can ask her to come out and have a look

cheshirekitty Thu 17-Jul-08 12:10:22

Have you got a walk in sexual health clinic near you? They would probably have female doctors there and you would be seen today?

WilyWombat Thu 17-Jul-08 12:11:58

Oh great - I can understand you issues.

Strange you should say about female asian patients not seeing a male doctor, whilst I wouldnt have a problem with seeing a male doctor on the whole I wouldnt see a male asian doctor about any female problems.

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