Warning, I pg and hormonal. Spare bedroom, with fitted wardrobes, all mirrored all our clothes in. So we need to turn it into a nursery. Plasterer coming this sat. I am stripping wallpaper inbetween typing. So we agree that we need to move most of our clothes into our room. Dh finds a really nice pair wardrobes to match our bed, on ebay, that comes with an overhead box/unit. I am delighted. Love it. Dh says lets sell fitted wardrobes from spare room. I say, can we have free standing ones, in new nursery. In a medium sized room, you can still see ceiling height, so gives impression of bigger room compared to fitted wardrobes. Dh sees a triple pine wardrobe,on ebay, that matches the double in ds's. Great I say, move ds's into nursery. Five down one wall. Lovely. I would prefer fitted he says. he finds some. O.k. I say, i don't really like them, but I will compromise, seeing as I am so happy with new one coming, for our room.
Now dh is very very good at diy. Plumbing, joinery, fitting ... anything. Our pine wardrobes/unit arrives, for our room. It doesn't fit. Dh has made a mistake on the measuremments. I will cut it off at the bottom, flush he says. Please don't I say, it still won't fit. No he says, I have many tricks, it will be fine. Cuts it off. Still doesn't fit. He says, we will have to move bed round. We have minorly discussed this before and I never wanted to. Plus the whole point of buying new wardrobes/unit was so that it fitted the space we had. So we move the bed round. I am pg, but even if I wasn't I would now have to squeeze sideways along wall to get into bed. I hate it. I hate lying in this new direction. But why ? I don't know why. I say, lets cut out losses, sell wardrobes/unit/ and put bed back. Wardrobes cost £300, he said we can't sell them now cut. I told you not to cut them I said.
What do I do? I really hate it. but I don't know why. He says I am punishing him for making a mistake. He very rarely makes mistakes. I make plenty. But its not that. It really is because I hate it now. And that I was so excited before with the idea of how it would be, I was so happy to have found a set that fited. Now it is a real pain.
AIBU ? How can we compromise. Do I have to let it go.
Yes, sorry it is so complicated. We sell wardrobes from old spare room. Buy new set for spare room, which is the room that will become nursery. I do not like them, but compromise, becasue am happy with set coming for our room. I love the bed in pour room. I hate the fact that new wardrobes do not fir. I have already compromised on the fatc that I didn't like dh's choice of funriture for the nursery. Oh god, sorry for not explaining well. New furniture for nursery, certainly wouldn't fit in our romm.
Your dh has messed up and is most likely feeling mad with himself, so is digging his heels in. Give him a nice speech about how you know he usually does so well at the diy, and this is just one little error with could happen to anyone, but really you need to cut your losses and get rid of the wardrobes. You need to be happy with this furniture that you'll be looking at every day for several years.
You could tell your dh that normally he gives you all you want in the bedroom, and makes you very happy, so why change now
He is a very traditional proud man, who doesn't normaly make mistakes. I accept that his pride is hurt. And I don't want to make it any worse. But really I hate it. He is now able to walk straight into the room, get into bed. And now the air conditioning unit is directly on him. Before it was on the left of me and the cool air blew across our feet. He says he loves it like this. I hate it. I would like to insist that we cut our losees and sell the wardrobes for whatever we can get for them. And put the bed back the way it was. But I have a feeling that this is unreasonable.
He has just phoned. He apologised. I did too. He said lets not fall out about this. I started to cry. He said he will sort it. It is our wedding anniversary on sat. The day the plasterer comes. We are booked for a posh meal. Nothing like a bit of stress, wall paper stripping and doggy wardrobes, prior to a wedding anniversary, hey ?
misdee, i had the same problem with crib and space - ended up co-sleeping with DS for the first 5 1/2 months. DH moved into spare bed (his choice really as he "needed his sleep"). DS now in his cot in spare room.
its the size of the room. position of the door and windows.
in fact its a problem with every bedroom. due to the position of the doors, means the beds can only ever be in one place. which isnt the best place. s am thinking of replacing them with folding or sliding doors.
dd3 moved back in wiuth me, as when dh initially came out of hospital he had the LVAD and needed a hospital bed which can be semi-reclined. the only room he couol go in was dd3 room, so she moved back in with me. dd1+2 are in the processing of moving into that bedroom (need to moe bunkbeds), and dd3 will have the room she currently shares with dd2, on her own for about 6-12montsh then baby will move in with her.