today, my cousin approaches me at the school gates. now, her DD and my DS2 are in the same school, but there is a lot of building work going on at the moment and so we never actually see each other as we are at opposite sides of the school now.
she tells me that her dad is on the mend, finally, altho getting very very frustrated at the bed rest he is currently on.
now, my face clearly looked blank and confused (as I was), and she asked me if I had heard about her dad...........
No, I say.
she is quite upset (not with me), as she had rung my part of the family and told them and asked them to ring round for her (the family is fractured anyway, she and I should not be surprised by all this really), and I was not rung.
I have been 'disowned', I understand that, but my aunt still keeps in touch (the uncle who has had a heart attack is one of five brothers), mainly so she can ring and moan at me about my mother (whole other story, not for now). WHY could she not have told me on the last three phone calls (she rings weekly, uncle had heart attack first week in june!!)......she knows I do see this one cousin, she knows that my cousin would have expected me to seek her out (which I would have done).......so is this just another way of ensuring that I still know I am disowned>??????
on a happier note, he is going to be ok, and my cousin is not angry with me, she understands........she figured it may have happened. and she and I are going to have coffee soon as she feels as tho we both could do with mutual support against our family (she has upset the other side as she apparently phone them in the wrong order).......one of the other aunts was the 3rd one rung....she is now 'disowning' all the family as she clearly was not important enough for the first call.....I mean WTF.....dad has heart attack, surely one call and then a ring-round should be suffice???
imo families are crap. I am always ignored as My mother is no longer around, so only get told of family events when my help is neede iyswim.
I Would be pissed off too. IME the only way to get the info is to specifically ask after all family members during rare phonecalls. This is how I found out about family PG( 7 months gone when I found out) Cancer, and divorces>>>
Oh blimey! Again, something waaaay too similar to my family (have we been cloned?) When my dad had a heart attack last year there were waaay too many family issues going on about it...drove me insane as I was the one who had to deal with it all. In the end I said that instead of X ringing Y and Y ringing Z etc etc, I would text everyone in the mornings to update them.
Unfortunately people like your aunt like to make other peoples problems 'all about them' iyswim. My mother was and still is the same. No-one apart from them is important as far as they are concerned.