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To HATE the phrase "Rod for your own Back"?

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OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 20:27:29

at pils at the mo, they are very kindly putting us up til our new house is ready next weekend (was supposed to move in this weekend) and we've been here since monday.

I am going nuts.

i cant do my own washing.

i cant make a cuppa when i want one.

and today mil told me that i was spoiling ds by still letting him have milk right before bed. that is why he wants a wee in the night and he needs routine and structure.

i have always been v relaxed and allowed ds to lead the way. when he is tired, he grabs his comfort balnket and pjs and tells me that its bedtime always at around 7pm. i would rather he have milk than tea as she suggested. and i dont want to cc train him (he's 3) when he goes to sleep with minimum fuss.

just need a rant!

OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 20:36:26

sorry, that sounds v ungrateful blush

ANTagony Fri 11-Jul-08 20:41:57

So what are you going to do to celebrate once you get your own space back?

I'm the same when I've been staying at a hotel. I like my tea in a mug - a big one and sometimes I want just a slice of toast in my PJs not a full English.

We're all still kids to our parents. Will you do the same to your DS when he and his have stays with you?

I remember so many things I wasn't going to do when I was a parent wink

Can you use them as free child minders and get yourself and your DP a decent Saturday night out, and a bit of space?

OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 20:47:44

god, i donknow. dh and i will have sex on the sofa, followed by a bottle of wine each without someone raising their eyebrows!

cant really go out tomorrow night, feel like we are taking advantage. feel guilty for mning in their living room as it is!

ANTagony Fri 11-Jul-08 20:52:54

They might appreciate the space, as well as you, if you go out - MIL could even get her own way with tea before bed.

Isn't tea a diuretic and cafine is a stimulant - excellent sleep inducing properties.

Better to moan than bottle it up.

Glad to hear your letting DH have the whole bottle of wine after sex - theres an organised mind.

cafebistro Fri 11-Jul-08 20:53:10

What is wrong with him having milk before bed?? Why would she want him to have tea?? Dont worry, not long now!!

OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 20:57:09

thanks, i am truly grateful, and i love them to bits. but i hate feeling on edge. cups are washed up the second tea is finished. ds's clothes are in thewash before they hit the floor. arrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhhh

eddiejo Fri 11-Jul-08 21:04:24

Can I borrow her? hmm (your MIL)

OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 21:06:02

lol eddie, its great for about 2 seconds, but then i start to get twitchy...

eddiejo Fri 11-Jul-08 21:07:00

Mine lives hundreds of miles away - thank God!! grin

OracleInaCoracle Fri 11-Jul-08 21:08:05


AuntyJ Fri 11-Jul-08 21:15:52

your lucky we had 9mths with my mothers words of wisdom when we moved in temporaily when the house we where buying fell through.

eddiejo Fri 11-Jul-08 21:17:09


AuntyJ Fri 11-Jul-08 21:19:07

thanks for the sympathy. If our marriage can survie that it can survie anything!

eddiejo Fri 11-Jul-08 21:25:55

lissielou - i remember sharp words from my dad when my ds5 was a few months old and he was crying and moaning when he held him. He made some comment about he needs to learn he will not be stood up every time he moans. angry

Well - I walked over and took him from my dad and he made the comment to me 'you're making a rod for your own back' I just smiled and replied well it's my back not yours.
As I picked him up he did the biggest burp ever. He never questioned my judgement again smile

You know your right so just smile and carry on. Anyway Tea contains tannins which reduce iron absorbtion and shouldn't be given to under 5s!!!!

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