Two friends who are also going have just texted me to ask if they can stay at my house that night. They live long way away and had planned to stay at someone else's house but now can't.
I told then they could stay BUT the only space to sleep is downstairs (no spare room) and they would be woken up at 7am when DP brings DD down for breakfast (downstairs is open plan), and then have to put up with a lively and noisy toddler (she will want to play with them!) with a hangover.
I COULD make DP sleep downstairs so my friends can sleep in our bedroom with me, so they get a lie in. But think its unfair on DP (he will get woken up when we come in drunk!).
AM I being mean? I feel like a might be. But then I am putting them up at v short notice!
YANBU - I presume they have heard of things called B&Bs and hotels. As long as you have warned them, it's their choice. Personally, NOTHING would pay me to stay at your house...I would pay the £20 for a B&B and have a few less drinks. And you shouldn't inconvenience your DP - he is the one who has to do the early so you can have a lie in.
We have wooden floor boards so will need more than just a sleeping bag!
They don't have children, they are young free and single and also several years younger then me
They said all the hotels are full. I live in a city so I think they meant all the CHEAP hotels are full . I don't think tey can afford anywhere expensive, and I totally understand this being skint myself
agree with the others. YANBU. They are welcome, but have to fit into your family. If you had asked them first, then it might be appropriate for you to make more of an effort by moving DP downstairs. But they asked you, they weren't invited. So they either like it and lump it or pay for a B&B somewhere else. Just be sure you have made it clear to them what the deal is at your place, perhaps even say "if you think you might want to sleep later than 7am, then you might like to think of our local B&B..."
oh god, and if they're younger tha you, they can handle it we had 2 friends, a couple, who are 10 years younger than DP and i staying over a few months ago - they were visiting oxford for a uni reunion cam eback pissed, knew DS would be all over them (well, the female half of the couple - he LOVES her) at 7.00am they just got on with it by 8.30, DS was snuggled up to them in front of Backyardigans, and the male half of the couple was transfixed by pablo and tyrone - i heard him encouraging them under his breath