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AIBU?

to snoop?

38 replies

Tortington · 11/07/2008 15:58

Background:
a manager also in same sporty team that dh is - and has opened his gob when pissed to some quite enlightening things that then get passed on to me cos DH is a gossip.

manager - married
flirting outragously with a member of staff - to the point of doing her work for her ( not my manager so am not fucked but i can see how other staff members sighing and eye rolling) and i kow pissed up gossip to boot

stayed late at work last night as so locked up.

i decided to raid the stationary cupboard - having previously told the Office manager ( quite a senior guy but mot my manager) that i would

the building was empty

so i snooped in managers office

i decided to go through the deesk draws

found

a

mobile phone

turned it on

and looked through it

secret phone with secret messages

WIU becuase i didn't ring voicemail?

i think i should have done

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TotalChaos · 11/07/2008 16:00

YABVU. It's none of your business.

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Madlentileater · 11/07/2008 16:04

this is a bit beyond snooping, imo. Snooping would be 'glancing' at mail left open on a desk in a room you shared.

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ChopsTheDuck · 11/07/2008 16:05

blimey, secret agent custy! Yes yabu.

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FabioTheLiterateCat · 11/07/2008 16:07

Fk the snooping, tell me about the stationery cupboard.
[fetish]

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S1ur · 11/07/2008 16:10

Well obv you were being snoopy and nosy and intrusive tsk. No I've said that....

WHat did messages say?

[nosy]

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ivykaty44 · 11/07/2008 16:12

Go back and snoop the voice calls and come back and tell all - just us mind

You will get caught you know this don't you and then you could end up with a whole lot of trouble that you didn't bargin for. These things can turn nasty and although you are not involved you have involved yourself and got in the middle.

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scottishmum007 · 11/07/2008 16:16

It's normal to be curious of other's lives. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with it.
YANBU.

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LobstersLass · 11/07/2008 16:17

Well let's hope that there aren't hidden cameras in the office eh?

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combustiblelemon · 11/07/2008 16:18

My! You're bloody thorough if that's your idea of snooping. You wouldn't like to come and clean my house would you?

Make sure you delete the call to his voicemail afterwards.

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Pheebe · 11/07/2008 16:20

Very unreasonable and a complete invasion of privacy over something that is after all not of your business

but very mission impossible non the less

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OomphreyCushion · 11/07/2008 16:22

Did the secret phone actually have the words 'secret phone' written on it?

If so, look again for 'secret perfume', 'secret underwear' and 'secret condoms'.

They are all part of the 'Weasly Bastard' kit from adulterers.com.

(I wouldn't have snopped, FWIW, but mainly because I would have been scared of being caught.)

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piratecat · 11/07/2008 16:23

that is ott snooping, i am .

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Madlentileater · 11/07/2008 16:23

If someone went through my drawers and took out my phone and turned it on I'd be very, very pissed off, and if it hppened at work I would make an official complaint.

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Tortington · 11/07/2008 23:19

no i didn't think i was being unreasonable either - he should have locked the drawer - tantermount to asking to be found imo

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PMT · 11/07/2008 23:29

YANBU

what did the messages say?

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unknownrebelbang · 11/07/2008 23:35

One of our managers does lock her drawers, and they were broken into by a member of staff.

No secret phones though.

My stuff gets rifled occasionally. (Fk knows why, there's nothing interesting there).

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blueskythinker · 11/07/2008 23:46

You may need to work on setting some boundaries for yourself [understatement emoticon]

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gemmiegoatlegs · 11/07/2008 23:47

i say snoop custy

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gemmiegoatlegs · 11/07/2008 23:48

just don't TELL anyone (except us, obviously!)

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Tortington · 11/07/2008 23:48

dya think so?

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PMT · 11/07/2008 23:48

for the love of god woman

what did the messages say?

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gemmiegoatlegs · 11/07/2008 23:54

SNOOP

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lilolilmanchester · 12/07/2008 00:02

I think we need more details to be able to give a fair answer....

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Tortington · 12/07/2008 00:03

i can't tell you what the messages say

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PMT · 12/07/2008 00:05

well in that case YABVU

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