Incredibly petty of me I know, and the first time I've done an AIBU about an RL situation.
Friend in childcare crisis has asked me to look after her 2.2 ds for the morning. I said 'of course' (though I'm ashamed to say that I'd been planning to park my own 2.9 dd in front of Cbeebies for most some of that morning bcs I've got some things that I really have to do on the day, that I knew I probably wouldn't be able to do today.
"So I'll see you at...?"
"2pm."
The children get on really well - for 2 year olds. It's not going to be possible to leave them for more than a minute at a time, I don't think.
I won't be able to make any of the excruciatingly long 'you are held in a queue' calls that I have to make.
And I have a sneaking suspicion that her DH, who's freelance and also studying, is not working but studying (totally valid - but in an emergency I would expect my own DP to catch up with study later) But this is a suspicion only.
Background: history of offering unasked-for favours, I accept with delight. Immediately presented with the 'return favour' that in truth motivated her offer.
Was supposed to be looking after ds while I gave birth to dd - but I discovered by chance that had dd arrived at a certain point - 1 week early - she wouldn't have been able to look after ds after all - bcs had subsequently taken up an offer of a 'bargain' holiday. DS being looked after by friends and not scared and alone was my huge worry etc etc.
She is probably the person who I have most fun with, locally iyswim. Funny, kind in many respects, would help in a crisis etc. Just this one 'favour' fault.
You know, I know i ABU, but my stomach is churning and I need someone to tell me that it's the other things that are more important.
If she'd said 'huge favour to ask, can you look after my toddler for 5 hours' I would have said yes without a thought (though have truthfully dreaded it) But I feel.. manipulated.
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Does looking after a friend's child for the morning mean till 2pm
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onebatmother · 10/07/2008 22:41
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