to think that allowing a six year old to suck her mothers breasts when she has NOT been breast feeding for years is wrong?

[toffetwist]

I have a friend. Who recently told me that she lets her 6 year old child suck her breasts. She is not breast feeding her and has not for years.

I am disturbed. Am I right to be? What do I do?

[greenelizabeth]

my dd asked to do that when i was bfing younger child. i know the lactivists say you should allow it. or else your child will end up ......... can't remember.

but i used my own judgement and said 'er no pet'.

[janeashersbookofspacecakes]

Do nothing, unless you think she's getting sexual pleasure from it.

[greenelizabeth]

ps don't know what to do. probably do nothing.

[hercules1]

'lactivists' - Must remember that one!

Personally I would have asked why.

[DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe]

I think it's wrong and very strange of your friend have to said yes. Actually it's more that strange it is, as you said, disturbing.

[flubdub]

I agree with JaneAsher.
Its a bit wierd, but she might not want her daughter to develop issues.
Is she v pro bfing?
Do you think shes trying to relactate?
Why would a 6 yr old want to do that?

[stitch]

its disturbing.
a lactating mother, allowing an older child to suckle is a matter of opinion i feel. personally i wouldnt either. but a non lactating mother allowing a child of six to suck is wrong. completely and utterly wrong, big fat capital letters wrong.
even breastfeeding an 8 year old is completly fine compared to this.

[Piffle]

dd was 5 when ds2 was little she asked for a go on there despite self weaning at 16mths
I said I'd express some if she wanted a taste.

She was part curious part jealousy
the expressing solved it!

[PictureThis]

I would be very disturbed by this too. Have you asked your friend why she allows her daughter to do this?

[stitch]

actually i am thingking abou this. and methinks,
trip trapp

[DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe]

Does she have a breast feeding child so that is where the other child has got the idea? Imagine if you had said this and it was another part, of say a man's body...I know it's a different (and more extreme example) but really where I am now (two dc who haven't breastfed for 3yrs) I consider my breasts to be back, finally! to be things that are only touched in a sexual manner I wouldn't dream of letting my children suck them.

[Lauriefairycake]

much less odd if she is feeding another child too as it would then be nice to say if little sis/bruv were getting some "course you can sweetie"

if not, very, very strange

[itati]

NOYB

[stitch]

this poster has NO other posts on mn ever.
at leastunder this name

go away troll, and take you sexual fantasies elsewhere

[DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe]

You think so stitch? You never know, there are always shouts of this when anyone starts a controversial thread but you never know...

[S1ur]

Welcome to Mumsnet TT and may I say what a odd first post to make.

[DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe]

you never know...shall I say it again..oops! I would have changed name to post this though, wouldn't have wanted RL friend to know I'd posted it so don't think that's necc. relevant.

[toffetwist]

She has no other child. She does not wish to start feeding her again.

[DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe]

In that case I would seriously consider taking some action. Bring it up with your friend again and try to find out more info. Personally alarm bells are REALLY ringing.

[flubdub]

I think we ought to give the benefit of the doubt.

[flubdub]

if it was something sinister , i doubt she would have told you tbh.

[toffetwist]

I am desperate for advice. I am worried for the child. I do not want my friend to recognise my user name.

[nappyaddict]

if it really was abuse i doubt she'd have told you about it.

[flubdub]

I think she might recognise you story ! Its not a common one!

[flubdub]

lol x post NA