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to think that allowing a six year old to suck her mothers breasts when she has NOT been breast feeding for years is wrong?

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toffetwist Sat 05-Jul-08 18:19:36

I have a friend. Who recently told me that she lets her 6 year old child suck her breasts. She is not breast feeding her and has not for years.

I am disturbed. Am I right to be? What do I do?

greenelizabeth Sat 05-Jul-08 18:21:23

my dd asked to do that when i was bfing younger child. i know the lactivists say you should allow it. or else your child will end up ......... can't remember.

but i used my own judgement and said 'er no pet'.

janeashersbookofspacecakes Sat 05-Jul-08 18:21:47

Do nothing, unless you think she's getting sexual pleasure from it.

greenelizabeth Sat 05-Jul-08 18:21:53

ps don't know what to do. probably do nothing.

hercules1 Sat 05-Jul-08 18:23:56

'lactivists' - grin Must remember that one!

Personally I would have asked why.

I think it's wrong and very strange of your friend have to said yes. Actually it's more that strange it is, as you said, disturbing.

flubdub Sat 05-Jul-08 18:27:34

I agree with JaneAsher.
Its a bit wierd, but she might not want her daughter to develop issues.
Is she v pro bfing?
Do you think shes trying to relactate?
Why would a 6 yr old want to do that?

stitch Sat 05-Jul-08 18:28:08

its disturbing.
a lactating mother, allowing an older child to suckle is a matter of opinion i feel. personally i wouldnt either. but a non lactating mother allowing a child of six to suck is wrong. completely and utterly wrong, big fat capital letters wrong.
even breastfeeding an 8 year old is completly fine compared to this.

Piffle Sat 05-Jul-08 18:28:58

dd was 5 when ds2 was little she asked for a go on there despite self weaning at 16mths
I said I'd express some if she wanted a taste.

She was part curious part jealousy
the expressing solved it!

PictureThis Sat 05-Jul-08 18:29:09

I would be very disturbed by this too. Have you asked your friend why she allows her daughter to do this?

stitch Sat 05-Jul-08 18:29:17

actually i am thingking abou this. and methinks,
trip trapp

Does she have a breast feeding child so that is where the other child has got the idea? Imagine if you had said this and it was another part, of say a man's body...I know it's a different (and more extreme example) but really where I am now (two dc who haven't breastfed for 3yrs) I consider my breasts to be back, finally! to be things that are only touched in a sexual manner blushgrin I wouldn't dream of letting my children suck them.

Lauriefairycake Sat 05-Jul-08 18:29:57

much less odd if she is feeding another child too as it would then be nice to say if little sis/bruv were getting some "course you can sweetie"

if not, very, very strange hmm

itati Sat 05-Jul-08 18:30:30


stitch Sat 05-Jul-08 18:30:42

this poster has NO other posts on mn ever.
at leastunder this name

go away troll, and take you sexual fantasies elsewhere

You think so stitch? You never know, there are always shouts of this when anyone starts a controversial thread but you never know...

S1ur Sat 05-Jul-08 18:32:06

Welcome to Mumsnet TT and may I say what a odd first post to make.

you never know...shall I say it again..oops! I would have changed name to post this though, wouldn't have wanted RL friend to know I'd posted it so don't think that's necc. relevant.

toffetwist Sat 05-Jul-08 18:32:39

She has no other child. She does not wish to start feeding her again.

In that case I would seriously consider taking some action. Bring it up with your friend again and try to find out more info. Personally alarm bells are REALLY ringing.

flubdub Sat 05-Jul-08 18:34:48

I think we ought to give the benefit of the doubt.

flubdub Sat 05-Jul-08 18:35:33

if it was something sinister , i doubt she would have told you tbh.

toffetwist Sat 05-Jul-08 18:35:34

I am desperate for advice. I am worried for the child. I do not want my friend to recognise my user name.

nappyaddict Sat 05-Jul-08 18:36:13

if it really was abuse i doubt she'd have told you about it.

flubdub Sat 05-Jul-08 18:36:22

I think she might recognise you story ! Its not a common one!

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