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... to think that a 2yr old should't be drinking coffee?

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JohnsonsIsBest Fri 09-May-08 20:20:49

a friend of mine is quite oblivious to the fact that her DD drinks approx 2 cups of coffee a day by taking sips from Mummy's mug.
There have even been occasions when she has had her own teeny cup (an espresso one) to be luike Mummy.

Am i being unreasonable? i don't think so as i've read that even one cup of coffee can affect your sleep patterns as an adult.

Her DD doens't sleep well...

I have hinted on a number of occasions that 'oh dear she's just had a sip - you won't sleep tonight' and so on but, oh I don't know, she doesn't seem to get it.

Am i being unreasonable?

blinkingthreetimes Fri 09-May-08 20:21:40


lilymolly Fri 09-May-08 20:22:09

No No No No No


Stupid behaviour

JohnsonsIsBest Fri 09-May-08 20:28:38

thank you!!!!
what could i do to try and disuade her??

mrsgboring Fri 09-May-08 20:30:22

You can't dissuade her, really, it's her life (but sadly also the child's)

At your house, always secretly switch her to decaff.

Cappuccino Fri 09-May-08 20:32:09

it's absolutely, positively, none of your business

I think YABU going round to your friend's house and then coming on here to slag off her parenting

Whooosh Fri 09-May-08 20:32:48

My dd on a Saturday morning has a very milky,very weak,decaff coffee and loves it- is that so bad?
Two cups of "normal" coffee however would be a complete no no for me.

jaspersslave Fri 09-May-08 20:33:04

i let my dc have tea (never near bedtime though)
but coffee NO WAY!

Cappuccino Fri 09-May-08 20:34:04

I don't know where you get this 'two cups' figure from either

you are just assuming

exaggerating as well I imagine

Shitemum Fri 09-May-08 20:35:20

My nephew used to be given coffee when just 7 or 8 yo. Then he was diagnosed as hyperactive and put on drugs. They still kept giving him coffee tho. Fucking stupid if you ask me.

WigWamBam Fri 09-May-08 20:36:43

What Cappuccino said.

It is absolutely none of your business. You can't force her to take on your standards, and you stand to risk the friendship if you try and dictate to her what she can or can't do with her child.

JackieNo Fri 09-May-08 20:37:04

DD and DS sometimes have an espresso cup with very milky filter coffee in it at breakfast time at the weekend. Sometimes they drink it, sometimes they don't. I was a bit shock when DH suggested they could, but really, I don't think it does too much harm. I've wondered in the past how much caffeine is in a bit of coffee compared to how much is in chocolate but don't know how to find out.

Divastrop Fri 09-May-08 20:41:49

how do you know she is having 2 cups a day if shes only taking sips?

ive seen people give children that age coke,whats the difference?(apart from that coffee probably has less crap in it)

Cappuccino Fri 09-May-08 20:42:46

Average cup of instant coffee 75mg caffeine
Average mug of instant coffee 100mg caffeine
Average cup of brewed coffee 100mg caffeine
Average cup of tea 50mg caffeine
Regular cola drink up to 40mg caffeine
Regular energy drink up to80mg caffeine
Plain chocolate bar up to 50mg caffeine – milk chocolate has around 50% caffeine content of plain chocolate

from here

so tea isn't that much better

and chocolate has caffeine in it

and we have no idea how what formula you have used to work out how many sips constitutes 2 cups

I think Jackie's approach is lovely

amytheearwaxbanisher Fri 09-May-08 20:44:03

i would never let ds have coffee but thats only because he is a hyper madman at the best of timesgrin

emj23 Fri 09-May-08 20:47:34

I personally wouldn't give my DC tea or coffee, and you of course are free to decide what you give your own, but you are being unreasonable to comment on it if a friend thinks it's okay. Beyond the first mention of 'Are you sure she'll sleep alright?' it would be very bad manners to harp on about it every time you meet.

monkeymagic Fri 09-May-08 20:53:46

My SIL & BIL give their 2yo ds coffee. They think it's hilarious that he's always asking for "Daddy's coffee". Not something I would ever do, but each to their own.

milliec Fri 09-May-08 21:11:19

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mrsruffallo Fri 09-May-08 21:14:17

It's not ideal but I think YABU- mother's choice

Blueskythinker Fri 09-May-08 21:18:47

I personally wouldn't give my DC tea or coffee (although mine don't even get fruit shoots), but I don't think you can judge other people (well yes, you can judge, just don't say anything).

Disregard Cappucino. She obviously has a vested interest grin

PinkTulips Fri 09-May-08 21:24:11

dd finishs every mug of tea i have as she loves it, she also takes sips of my coffee when we're out (don't drink it much at home)

don't see any problem with it, dd is 3 and she never gets hyper from it (i don't tend to get any effects like that from coffee either for that matter).

YABU, tis no harm to the child and is absolutely none of your business

JohnsonsIsBest Fri 09-May-08 21:25:06

I had no doubt that Cappucino would be of the YABU variety!

Thanks for all the feedback, I will back off and sit at a table trying to write down my sips/cups formula.... with a cup of Mocha...

Blueskythinker Fri 09-May-08 21:33:37

I reckon that a sip must equate to approx 10-15 ml (based on 2 - 3 medicine spoons). Any more than that, and you are describing a gulp. My Denby mugs take 250 ml each (sad I know, but I have just measured it).

That means to have 2 cups of coffee a day, the child must be having 35 to 50 sips a day.
[pathetic emoticon]

WallOfSilence Fri 09-May-08 21:43:50

I bet there are aspects of your parenting your friend disagrees with...hmm

Each to their own.

I would say 35 to 50 sips a day is far more than any child would have!!

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