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Going to bed sad. Is there something in the air?

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Cryingintomypillow · 24/01/2022 23:14

The past two nights the evening has hit and I’ve just wanted to cry and eat my feelings. Feeling really sad and just meh. Anyone else? Something in the air?

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bloodywhitecat · 24/01/2022 23:21

I have come to bed for the first time in weeks, I have spent the last five weeks not sleeping on a freezing cold blow up bed next to my very poorly DH's bed downstairs but tonight we have night care and now I can't sleep either. I am sad that I can't sleep and sad that I am not sleeping next to him. I do think this time of year is a prime time of year for general sadness though.

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Cryingintomypillow · 24/01/2022 23:23

Sending you love @bloodywhitecat

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Taketherisk · 24/01/2022 23:25

Hope you feel better soon and have a nice sleep x

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MadAntonia · 24/01/2022 23:29

For what it’s worth, Blue Monday was a week ago today:

www.nicswell.co.uk/events/blue-monday-2022

Take good care of yourself, OP. Flowers

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Jibbajabba1 · 24/01/2022 23:31

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blyn72 · 24/01/2022 23:32

[bouquet]
I hope you wake up feeling better tomorrow morning.

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22Giraffes · 24/01/2022 23:33

OP I feel exactly the same. I said to dh last night that I just felt really sad and also a sense of dread/impending doom. I hope you feel better soon and can get some sleep Flowers

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RobertaFirmino · 24/01/2022 23:36

I'm sorry to hear that @Cryingintomypillow and @bloodywhitecat

I do agree that it's a bit Phil Collins (something in the air!) at the moment - it's January, it's cold, there's not a great deal to look forward to and it's all a bit blaaahh. I feel a bit unsettled tonight myself, I saw a picture online of something really horrible and then the news about the Cameroon football match brought back some awful memories from years ago. I will be OK though. We all will.

Just allow yourself to feel sad, it's a perfectly valid state. Remind yourself that it is January, it is still winter so feeling down in the dumps is to be expected. Seasons change and it won't be long until the first crocuses are out, then the daffs and the days will become lighter.

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Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 24/01/2022 23:37

January is always a bit shit, though, isn't it? I am with you, lots of very sad thoughts at the moment.

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Hanahdhbenan · 24/01/2022 23:42

I have woken up crying a few times in the past week. I just feel so sad.

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SylviasMotherSaid · 24/01/2022 23:46

Lying in bed feeling very doomy and in general I feel today has been very meh . For what it’s worth I don’t think many people are themselves at the moment for one reason of another .

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Feeascotime · 24/01/2022 23:51

I've also had my moments - a lot has changed with Covid challenges and it's miserable weather on top.
Just accept that we have a range of feelings and let it pass.
Go easy on yourself x

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Topseyt · 24/01/2022 23:54

I get this. I think it is down to the days still being quite short and the nights long.

I hate this time of year - November, December, January. It makes me feel so flat, sad and depressed. It really should be banned.

I've found it a lot harder this year. Maybe because my Dad died last March, so we've just spent our first Christmas without him, and then in the middle of January would have been his birthday. He would have been 87.

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surlycurly · 24/01/2022 23:55

It's my birthday today and it's been shit. Again. I have to confess I've had a wee cry. I was sad last night too because I thought it might be shit. Big hugs to all of you x

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YourVagesty · 24/01/2022 23:55

Don't think I've ever seen a 100% yanbu before.

Definitely something in the air OP.

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DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 24/01/2022 23:56

I feel like if I let myself, I would cry my eyes out. Sob even.

I do have a few things going on in my life that are being dealt with, but are ongoing.

Feel like I'm 'managing' okay, but I feel sad too. In fact, I'm tearing up just writing this.

There is definitely something in the air OP 😪.

Solidarity with all my sad sisters.

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DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 24/01/2022 23:58

@surlycurly

It's my birthday today and it's been shit. Again. I have to confess I've had a wee cry. I was sad last night too because I thought it might be shit. Big hugs to all of you x

Happy birthday Flowers x
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KurtWilde · 24/01/2022 23:58

I was in tears this evening making my cuppa for bed. Very unlike me. Luckily DC were asleep. Not hormonal, just sad.

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QueenOfHiraeth · 25/01/2022 00:00

@Feeascotime

I've also had my moments - a lot has changed with Covid challenges and it's miserable weather on top.
Just accept that we have a range of feelings and let it pass.
Go easy on yourself x

I agree.
I also think that with the constant barrage of aggressive media (regarding covid, vaccines, politics, etc) we are all in a constant state of high alert, worn down and exhausted
Look after yourselves everybody Flowers
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Susiesue61 · 25/01/2022 00:03

I feel so sad. Half of us have Covid, DD is missing yet another week of uni for being sick. I should have gone to my sister's at the weekend but they have Covid too!! I've run out of anti depressants and DH is a miserable sod. Roll on cricket season 😊 Sorry it's not just me though and sorry to those of you with genuine reasons to feel sad

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HazelBite · 25/01/2022 00:13

I have been really upset as well tonight, Saw something on Tv tonight with a man talking about his grandchildren then thought about how I'm the only one of my friends who doesn't have grandchildren, and how it is unlikely that I will ever be someones Grandma (not in my lifetime anyway), it all started to get to me.
In the last 3 years I've had far too much trauma and upset, and it seems ominously "quiet" at the moment and I'm just waiting for the next "disaster" to happen.

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KurtWilde · 25/01/2022 00:17

Someone I've known for a very long time and thought was one of the very few people I could actually call friend, told me - after what I thought was a a fab evening of catch up of laughter and conversation - that they find me hard to be around. I laughed it off initially and said you mean occasionally? No, 99% of the time, including tonight. I excused myself and went home. It really, really upset me. I'm a warts and all kind of person, but I always try to give people the best version of myself. I had no idea they felt like this. Now I'm thinking everyone I know probably feels like this too. It's knocked me for six.

I'm just really sad that all this time they haven't even enjoyed my company. I made a real effort this evening to organise childcare and a meal out. And for what?

I've had a good cry. Feel better for that.

If I'm so difficult to be around they don't need to bother being around me again.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 25/01/2022 00:17

Yes, I have generalized sadness this month - I can cry at the drop of a hat, if I just stop for a minute and think. I find I'm unable to read anything sad, or watch anything slightly upsetting, because once I start I won't stop.

This is the month my DM died, and it has been harder this year than the past 2.

Flowers to all of us. Here's to sunshine cheering us up, one day soon.

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WeighaFreya · 25/01/2022 00:32

I'm so sad that my country is being torn apart by Brexit. It's harder now that the impact is being felt more by the general public but so few realise our even emptier shelves and price increases are due to the extra red tape that started in January. That our supply lines cannot cope, that the cameras covering the roads leading up to Dover seemed to have been actually switched off.

That the public are being fed lies about why the queues are so long.

So sad the EU national friends have felt so unwelcome here that they have left, that UK citizens have got out while they could, and that I can't.

That on top of having the anniversaries of two close family bereavements are in February, that my late husband and I got married in February, it's not the best of times chez moi.

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Gettingonwithit12 · 25/01/2022 00:35

Oh gosh me too! I’ve been crying myself to sleep this past week. Proper sobs. I was wondering what was going on but it seems it’s not just me! Flowers to everyone, thank goodness January is nearly over

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