To have my pyjamas on when MIL visits?

[ashorterday]

MIL is visiting this evening. Today I've been out walking, come home had a nice bath and put PJs on.

DH thinks I should get dressed, I'm willing to compromise with a hoody over the PJs but the spotty trousers will give it away.

Am I a slattern for even considering it? MIL is too polite to mention it.

[Octomore]

I wouldnt wear pyjamas for a visitor, no.

Context might change it though. How close are you? How often does she visit? Does she pop in often?

[Toanewstart22]

Always curious

What is your relationship like with your DH?

And is she regularly over or over on a rare occasion for dinner?

[ExtraOnion]

I find it astonishing that people are bothered by stuff like this. Who gives a rats arse about what anyone is wearing ?
Is your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.

[pussycatunpickingcrossesagain]

No. Wear what you want.
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂

[forrestgreen]

Is it casual after dinner, then that's fine. If she's here for a meal I'd throw something on

[Didioverstep]

Depends I would in front of my MIL when she was alive. But we lived with each other for a hit so comfortable and I would infant of my grandparents. But if we weren't close then no I wouldn't

[VickyEadieofThigh]

@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain

No. Wear what you want.
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂

THIS!

[singlenamestar]

@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain

No. Wear what you want.
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂

Hahaha

[ashorterday]

She comes every week, it's not a formal dinner just coffee and a chat up.

What's my relationship got to do with it 😂 DH just said "Aren't you going to get dressed? MIL is coming soon" Not "I demand you get dressed you filthy whore!"

[fairylightsandwaxmelts]

It depends - personally if I knew we were having guests, I'd not change into my pajamas.

Don't you have other comfortable clothes - leggings and a jumper or something? It does feel a bit rude to be hosting someone in pajamas, tbh.

[tvcc]

Eating dinner together, get dressed.

Chatting and watching tv, pyjamas

[Tullig]

@pussycatunpickingcrossesagain

No. Wear what you want.
Was she invited? Your DH can always compensate by dressing in a top hat and tails. 😂

That's an adorable idea. And a monocle.

[RegardingMary]

Go for it.

I doubt my MIL would bat an eye, but then she does also have a key and comes and goes, we don't stand on ceremony for her, she takes us as she finds us.

[Kite22]

Yes, YABU.

Pretty odd to know someone is coming to visit, and putting your pyjamas on. Different thing altogether is someone dropped in unannounced.

[Merryoldgoat]

I don’t get dressed on the weekend unless going out.

Crack on.

[Toanewstart22]

@ashorterday

She comes every week, it's not a formal dinner just coffee and a chat up.

What's my relationship got to do with it 😂 DH just said "Aren't you going to get dressed? MIL is coming soon" Not "I demand you get dressed you filthy whore!"

So he asked a question rather than thinking you should!

[heldinadream]

#teamnotgivingaratsarse

#teampjs

[ashorterday]

s your MIL the kind of person who would make a massive judgment if you are in your PJs … if she is, so what … she’s not your judge and jury.

She probably would judge me, but only silently!

[QuestionsorComments]

I'd definitely be dressed. Not smart, but dressed. I've never seen my own mother downstairs in her PJs, even when I was a child.

[pussycatunpickingcrossesagain]

Let her silently judge your PJs...
Has DH got some nice cufflinks and a fancy waistcoat to add to his top hat n tails?

[Envoitrevisage]

I’d get dressed. If you own nothing sufficiently comfortable for a cup of coffee than pyjamas, then you’ve got bigger problems.

I’d think it rude if someone wasn’t dressed.

[Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese]

I'd stay in my pjs in your position.

Not only do I wear pj's when in laws (and my parents) visit, dh and I regularly go to my parents and inlaws in pjs/loungewear. Both my mum and mil tend to be wearing pjs/loungewear when we go over, unless we're going out.
No one bats an eyelid.

[TimeForTheChristmasTree]

We had my inlaws here last night for chinese food.

I wore Harry Potter pj bottoms. I didn’t even think about it!

[AtillatheHun]

if I did that, it would generate a few phonecalls from MIL to her son, daughter and possibly some of the church group, complaining and judging. Hard. (I should probably do it next time)

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

From this thread, and others on the subject of pyjamas, it’s clear there is a market for pyjamas that don’t look like pyjamas - anyone want to come on Dragons’ Den with me?

If I turned up to visit Ds1 and his fiancée, and she was in pyjamas, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid, nor would I judge. It isn’t something I’d do, but I can really understand the pleasure of having a bath, and putting on comfy pjs, and just relaxing.