Dh has a headache at the moment and as such, has taken the last two days off of work.
Not to sound too unsympathetic, but I don’t believe this ‘headache’ is even half as bad as he’s making it out to be, as he’s somehow still able to watch videos on his phone on full volume with the brightness all the way up, he stayed up til almost midnight with me last night watching things on Netflix, cracking jokes and laughing away, he went to the shops yesterday evening to get bread so that he could make himself a sandwich (two hours after he’d had dinner ).
However, throughout the day yesterday he stayed in bed, and today will no doubt be the same as he’s just gone back up to bed.
We have three DC’s - a nearly 5 year old, 3 year old, 2 year old and I’m the stay at home parent. I currently have the winter cold that’s making it’s rounds (not Covid, just general winter lurgy), I’ve had diarrhoea for the last two days plus I’m on my period - I suffer with horrendously heavy periods that cripple my back and make me feel nauseous and faint, yet I’m still doing the school runs, the shopping, doing all of the housework and looking after our other two DC’s throughout the day, while DH is moping around in his dressing gown and the same pjs he’s had on since Sunday.
It’s the same story whenever DH is even slightly ill. He’ll spend days in bed, leaving me to deal with the DC’s and the house no matter how I may be feeling. But when I’m ill, I just have to get on with it, I have no choice.
I can count on one hand how many times he’s taken the day off of work to look after the DC’s whilst I’ve been ill during the almost 5 years we’ve been parents. Whereas I’d have to grow an extra 4 pairs of hands to count how many times he’s been off work for his ‘illnesses’.
And before people come at me and tell me I’m a martyr for doing things when I’m ill - things still have to get done! Dc needs to go to school, dishes need to be washed, laundry needs to be done, dinners need to be made, other DC’s need to be taken care of. If DH won’t take time off when I’m ill, it’s not as though I can just wipe my hands of my responsibilities and not do them.
AIBU for being annoyed that even slight headaches/sniffles etc are reason enough for DH to stay in bed all day and avoid housework and childcare?
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To hate it when DH is 'ill'
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