WTF! Random man comment

(292 Posts)
KatherineJaneway Sat 04-Dec-21 15:29:34

Out in a busy, lively restaurant last night catching up with a good friend. Been there about an hour when a random man walks up to our table and says to me directly 'Do you ever smile?'

I was a bit confused in the moment as I had no idea who he was and my friend and I had been talking, so I was like 'excuse me?' I must have moved from what was clearly a resting bitch face to a smile and he was like 'Oh, you do' and he walked off. I mean, why do that?

YABU - he's making conversation
YANBU - you're right, he's an annoying twat

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Returnoftheowl Sat 04-Dec-21 15:32:12

He's not making conversation, he's putting a a women down and making sure "she knows her place"

MeltedButter Sat 04-Dec-21 15:32:25

Ugh i hate that. I feel like men that say that get off on the control they have. Like they know it means you are going to smile even if it is out of awkwardness or politeness.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sat 04-Dec-21 15:32:40

Definite twat

Igmum Sat 04-Dec-21 15:33:41

Yes because as a woman it is your responsibility to please all the random dickheads men you might bump into

ChaToilLeam Sat 04-Dec-21 15:33:59

Absolute twat. You’re not a performing seal!

MrsColon Sat 04-Dec-21 15:34:05

What an entitled prick - what is it with men thinking they're entitled to a smile from a complete stranger? What if you'd just been discussing the death of a close friend or something else awful?

I've had this a couple of times, my response to both was a deadpan "No" before going back to what I was doing/saying. One bloke slunk off, the other, incredibly, told me I'd be much prettier if I smiled, and was told to fuck off immediately (he called me a bitch). Afterwards I wished I'd treated him to a lecture on how women don't owe complete strangers anything.

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cheeseislife8 Sat 04-Dec-21 15:34:06

Definitely a tent

cheeseislife8 Sat 04-Dec-21 15:34:26

*twat

SnugKnights Sat 04-Dec-21 15:34:41

MeltedButter

Ugh i hate that. I feel like men that say that get off on the control they have. Like they know it means you are going to smile even if it is out of awkwardness or politeness.

It certainly doesn’t make me smile when dickheads say stuff like this to me. I’m more likely to tell them to fuck right off!

DrManhattan Sat 04-Dec-21 15:35:26

Hes a total bell end. Fact

Chesneyhawkes1 Sat 04-Dec-21 15:36:14

I remember a similar thread ages ago when the lady replied "thank you for your comment random man"

KatherineJaneway Sat 04-Dec-21 15:38:19

It took me a lot to go out last night. I dressed up as the restaurant has a dress code and I have had a rough few months so to have this random walk up and pick on me was not pleasant. Angry with myself I can only come up with a smart retort a long time after the event.

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KatherineJaneway Sat 04-Dec-21 15:39:09

Chesneyhawkes1

I remember a similar thread ages ago when the lady replied "thank you for your comment random man"

I wish I was that quick. He caught me off guard.

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Kernowfornia Sat 04-Dec-21 15:39:55

A negging opening gambit … can’t believe you didn’t club him over the head and drag him back to your cave to procreate there and then.

secretllama Sat 04-Dec-21 15:41:00

If someone said that to me I'd tell them someone I know had just died in the hope they feel rotten. How fucking dare people make comments like that without knowing what's going on in someone's lives.

bungaloid Sat 04-Dec-21 15:41:37

You don't need a clever retort, just tell him to fuck off.

TheSpottedZebra Sat 04-Dec-21 15:43:13

KatherineJaneway

It took me a lot to go out last night. I dressed up as the restaurant has a dress code and I have had a rough few months so to have this random walk up and pick on me was not pleasant. Angry with myself I can only come up with a smart retort a long time after the event.

Maybe you were looking too nice or confident and so needed to be 'put in your place'?

It's all about power isn't it.

WineAway Sat 04-Dec-21 15:43:48

Well you’re not performing femininity properly are you? Do you not realise your role is to be decorative, a support human & pleasing to all males. Otherwise what is the point of you? It’s not like you’re a real person.

He’s a amadhan.

foxgoosefinch Sat 04-Dec-21 15:44:38

Returnoftheowl

He's not making conversation, he's putting a a women down and making sure "she knows her place"

^^This!

Fatarseflanagan09 Sat 04-Dec-21 15:45:29

One bloke asked me why I was so skinny, I asked him if he’d got as many spots on his dick as he had on his face.

foxgoosefinch Sat 04-Dec-21 15:45:45

My comeback for that kind of random man comment is always:

“Do you always harass women in public?”

KatherineJaneway Sat 04-Dec-21 15:46:23

bungaloid

You don't need a clever retort, just tell him to fuck off.

I just felt like an idiot. I was catching up with my friend to be confronted with a random comment I wasn't quick enough to even tell him to eff off.

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wankywomble Sat 04-Dec-21 15:46:59

I had a guy say this to me just after I had been told I had cancer. Told him 'oh I didn't realise that being told I have cancer was something to smile about'. He couldn't get away fast enough, I'd gone away for a couple of days before surgery and it really upset me. Why the fuck would you say that to someone when you have no idea what they are going through?

aspirational Sat 04-Dec-21 15:47:01

Here you go OP, how to deal with that Brandon man

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AX4sf1JVY24

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