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AIBU?

To be furious with my manager

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WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility · 03/12/2021 21:48

I'm NHS and like most hospitals our department is struggling with staffing levels and recruitment.
Yesterday during a procedure, patient on the table, all of us standing within three feet of each other, the Consultant, who has been taking an active part in the future planning, asked my manager how things were going.

The conversation went like this:

"So when's T starting?"
"Not...problems..."
"Well you've got X doing bank?"
Nod
"And Y doing more hours?"
Nod
"And you'll be training up 'keen new person' and 'Invisible person'?"
"Yes"

I'm fuming. I know full well what extra training is planned and I'm not happy for good reasons. But I'm really furious because clearly this discussion has been going on for a little while with no mention to me, and then they had this conversation right there as if I didn't exist.

(Or the patient, whose hand I was holding whilst offering reassurance).

But this is about ME. And I'm bloody cross and offended. AIBU?

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Olliesocks · 03/12/2021 21:51

I’m sorry, i’m confused. Which one is you?

EarringsandLipstick · 03/12/2021 21:52

And I'm bloody cross and offended

About what? Have you missed a part in the story? Who are you in the dialogue with your manager?

PAFMO · 03/12/2021 21:52

Eh?

Are you X, Y or Keen or Invisible? Are there 4 people here or 2?

Are you saying that your two managers were talking about you as if you weren't there? Or that you knew that something (training?) was in the offing and you don't want it?

PAFMO · 03/12/2021 21:52

Glad it's not just me

PAFMO · 03/12/2021 21:53

Oops I forgot T.

ChangeChingyChange · 03/12/2021 21:53

Wtf

mynameiscalypso · 03/12/2021 21:54

I assume you're invisible person?

WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility · 03/12/2021 21:54

Apologies for lack of clarity.
The conversation was between my immediate manager and the consultant with me standing there silently fuming.

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SillyBub · 03/12/2021 21:54

I know my brain seriously struggles at this time on a Friday (I just referred to a bollard as roadside furniture to my DH) but I simply could not follow that at all, OP.

Halloaten · 03/12/2021 21:54

Hope you're enjoying that wine 🍷

Burnamer · 03/12/2021 21:54

Look at OP’s username. I understood it.

DukkaTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 03/12/2021 21:55

So you’re having to do extra training for something and they discussed it in front of you without discussing it with you.

WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility · 03/12/2021 21:55

I am enjoying the
An extra glass because I'm sulking.

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DappledThings · 03/12/2021 21:56

@WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility

Apologies for lack of clarity.
The conversation was between my immediate manager and the consultant with me standing there silently fuming.

Which still doesn't clarify which one you think refers to you in the conversation

Hibiscusroses · 03/12/2021 21:56

Have another from me. Now tell me, what actually happened?

WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility · 03/12/2021 21:57

T is someone who was offered a job but for various reasons hasn't materialised.
X and Y are other staff members.

I'm invisible. The work just magically gets done without anyone noticing.

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PrincessPaws · 03/12/2021 21:57

I would assume OP is 'invisible person' in this story

PinkyPromises · 03/12/2021 21:57

The consultant was saying about the OP needing extra training in front of her and the patient.

Sorry OP that's really shit

AtlasPine · 03/12/2021 21:58

It sounds a bit crass but I’m not sure I’d be that bothered by it. However, it may have lost a bit of the punch in the telling.

Bluntness100 · 03/12/2021 21:58

Who are you in this? T, x, y, new person, invisible person, who?

This is an anonymous forum, we don’t know you so can’t guess.

WearingMyCloakOfInvisibility · 03/12/2021 21:58

So you’re having to do extra training for something and they discussed it in front of you without discussing it with you.

@DukkaTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly has it.

Apologies for my lack of clarity.

It's not all down to the wine. Trying not to be identifiable and give too much detail for obvious reasons. Plus that extra glass.

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Winniewonka · 03/12/2021 21:58

I just want to know was the patient conscious?😀

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MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry · 03/12/2021 21:59

What are you pissed off about?

MaggieFS · 03/12/2021 21:59

Gosh I'm confused and I haven't even had a drink.

Bluntness100 · 03/12/2021 21:59

Oh cross posted. So basically they said they’d be training you up in front of you, and you’re offended as, well you feel you don’t need the training, or they can’t discuss it?

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