DD is 10. Overall she is a lovely kid who gets on well at school but of course she is in year 6 so fall outs are inevitable at this age but had no serious issues, she is happy to go to school and she has no additional needs etc just so as not to drip feed.
There is a boy at school who is very popular in the year group, he is confident, sporty and from a huge family.
He has been making comments about my daughters hair for months now, calling her ginger etc and just generally making fun, always appearance related. We hadn’t really acted as she seemed to be holding her own and telling him to mind his own etc.
Last week she went into school wearing trousers rather than a skirt, cue this kid (and others) commenting that she looks like a boy, why is she wearing trousers, you look like ‘X child’ (who is on the spectrum and has always been the only girl to wear trousers in their year group which is fine ofc but they’re using this child as an insult!) and laughing about it generally. Spoke to school, she was pretty upset and teacher was fab, thought it was sorted.
Yesterday the same boy said to her (about her new school shoes) ‘why are you wearing them, you look like a boy! Are you trans?’ She also admitted he has been saying she’s going to grow up to ‘be a boy’ because of wearing trousers.
Now she’s not particularly upset over the more recent comments. But I am fuming. Aibu?
For the record - I wouldn’t care how she chose to identify as an adult but she is 10 years old and just a happy little ‘tomboy’ who wants to be warm and comfy in this freezing weather!
It’s 2021 ffs not the 50’s why can’t my daughter wear what she feels comfortable in without being picked on? I dread secondary school next year!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
Am I over reacting or is this kid out of line calling my DD trans?
187 replies
Overreactingmom · 02/12/2021 13:14
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
791 votes. Final results.
POLL
You are being unreasonable
4%
You are NOT being unreasonable
96%
MrsBison ·
02/12/2021 13:26
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
MrsBison ·
02/12/2021 13:33
This reply has been deleted
Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk guidelines.
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.