Husband has Covid

[MakingLifeBetter]

My husband has always been really dramatic when he’s unwell - even a cold will have him bed bound, given the chance. I always have to get on with things whether or not I have cold/flu. Since he got his positive Covid result he’s been groaning constantly, saying it’s like the time we both had flu (I feel bad for him feeling rough, but this is not quite the case as then we both had high fevers and had to take a lot of paracetamol and nurofen to ease the temperature and aches. He has no fever, is not coughing, rarely taking meds and has been eating fine - thankfully - and watching films in his room.)
I just came here for a rant and for an online hug really, since I’m running around three kids alone, including a baby who wakes me hourly to feed. I’m exhausted and have been since our beautiful baby (7m) arrived. I had a difficult pregnancy and was shimmied out of hospital the day after my c section as my husband wanted help at home and not to be stuck at the hospital, and he would sleep through the night while I fed baby. So when he says now how tired he is (which I understand is a v unpleasant side effect of Covid) I just think “join the club, I’ve been exhausted for months while you sleep through in your own room”.
I probably sound the meanest wife ever, but I’m just feeling a bit resentful!! Anyone else’s husband dramatic like this?

[Natty13]

You don't sound like the meanest wife ever you sound like an absolute doormat. Why not speak up for yourself or expect a more equal partnership?

[authenticforgery]

You're not mean. He sounds as useful and helpful to have around as an infant would be.

[FallonCarringtonWannabe]

He sounds shit at sharing the load. Of course youre going to start resenting it and then him and then his existence unless he gets a grip.

I cannot believe he had you leave hospital the day after surgery because HE needed gekp?! What the actual fuck?!

Yanbu. When he is over covid he grows the fuck up and shares the parenting load equally.

[Wnikat]

He made you leave hospital early because he couldn’t cope at home? You have yourself a man child

[A8mint]

how dare the selfish bastard get covid!

[MakingLifeBetter]

Tbf the postnatal ward was hideously hot and I’d already been away from him and our other kids nearly a fortnight because of pregnancy issues...
I kinda want to get Covid so that I can take the full 10 days in bed (although I’ll still have to feed my baba!)

[GoodnightGrandma]

He’s another child to look after. I hope he pulls his weight when well, or I’d be considering my options.

[drunkensailorette]

@A8mint

how dare the selfish bastard get covid!

I don't think it's about him having covid, it's the fact that he's making the most of a positive result with no apparent symptoms and loafing about in bed while OP runs herself bloody ragged!

[MakingLifeBetter]

I’m sure he does feel rubbish - wiped out and achy. But it’s not flu and thankfully the vaccinations are working

[ShatteredDream]

Does sound like he’s taking the piss, I had covid with very minor symptoms, tired and a bit achy but nothing like some people get! I certainly didn’t take to bed for 10 days. I’ve had worse colds tbh

[cherrypie66]

Leave the lazy bastard. He needs to man up and start doing his equal share of parenting

[MakingLifeBetter]

Your comments are making me feel worse lol.
I have three kids, can’t cope alone! And I quite enjoy his company when he’s not moping about

[DrSbaitso]

I just think “join the club, I’ve been exhausted for months while you sleep through in your own room”.

Try saying it.

I can't believe he hurried you out of hospital.

[DrSbaitso]

@MakingLifeBetter

Tbf the postnatal ward was hideously hot and I’d already been away from him and our other kids nearly a fortnight because of pregnancy issues...
I kinda want to get Covid so that I can take the full 10 days in bed (although I’ll still have to feed my baba!)

What makes you think he wouldn't be on at you to get up and get on if you had Covid? Has any illness or health problem excused you before?

[SilverGlassHare]

I’m recovering from covid and I do feel really exhausted, out of proportion to how ‘ill’ I’ve been (ie not much of a cough, only a bit of congestion, no fever). But it’s NOTHING to how I felt with a little baby! He sounds like he’s a bit crap, OP.

[MakingLifeBetter]

Nothing has excused me other than the few weeks after the caesarean that I couldn’t do house work or run around our other children. He looked after things then. I’ve had flu before and tbh I had no excuse but to get on with things. I’m good at powering through

[Twounderfive83]

YANBU. Your husband sounds rubbish for wanting you home so soon after your c section. And for sleeping through all of the baby’s night wakings.

My husband also has Covid and I’m finding it very hard to muster sympathy but outwardly am being very sympathetic. He’s an equal share partner and father though, so I’m really missing him sharing the load.

[Boombastic22]

Why would you have had a third child with him?

[authenticforgery]

Sorry he just sounds like a really horrible person. "Nothing has excused me other than a cesarean" is bleak. He sounds like your master rather than your husband.

[FrenchBoule]

OP, time for a Dressing Gown of Doom and Shuffly Slippers.

[Werk]

YANBU my DH also has Covid at the moment and it seems that his symptoms vary depending on what he gets out of it.
He can still work all day but cannot bring his dirty plates downstairs and put them in the dishwasher when we are all out.
Definitely not.
Tbh my life has been no different for the past week but I know I would have found it harder if I had a baby. Sympathy to you.

I hope you get a mild case and a week in bed so that he gets to have a glimpse at what you do day in and day out.

[Peppercorn9]

Sorry to sound mean OP, but I do wonder why people who have 3+ kids and then complain about being exhausted/overworked are actually surprised by this! That said, your DH sounds like an absolute manchild (fair enough that he’s suffering with covid but that aside, he clearly sees childcare as your responsibility). If you’re actually wishing you’ll get covid so you can have a rest, something is very wrong with the division of labour in your marriage (and trust me, as someone who’s lost two loved ones to covid - one young and healthy - you really fucking don’t).

[MakingLifeBetter]

@Werk sympathy to you too, with the extra housework. Yeah it’s the baby that makes it so much harder. I don’t usually drive the kids to school in the morning as it’s an early start and I’m always up through the nights, so these drop offs are finishing me off. Oh, for a mild case and a nice week reading books and being brought food all day

[MrsSkylerWhite]

cherrypie66

Leave the lazy bastard. He needs to man up and start doing his equal share of parenting“

Yep, leaving him is bound to improve OP’s situation no end 🙄

[MakingLifeBetter]

@Peppercorn9 I’m so sorry about your loved ones. I really didn’t mean to sound insensitive regarding the seriousness of Covid. Luckily we are both double vaccinated.
And yes, I was v scared about having a third child but went into it with open eyes. He’s the best. And I generally can cope when I’m not doing everything