Have I grown a second head without realising?

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Needspace21 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:43:54

The last few days I have been hanging out alone as ex dp has the dcs over half term.
I've been on country walks, to cafes, to beaches etc., with my dogs. It's been lovely. One issue which has irked me slightly is how some people have really been staring at me. Is it because I'm a shameless 40 something out enjoying myself alone. Is that a crime? One woman in a cafe stared at me the whole time (to the point of ignoring her whole family sitting at the table with her). Another woman looked me up and down with distain when I went in her shop. Another woman scowled at me as I walked down the beach. Have people just got more starey? Do I look odd? What is going on?

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Letsallscreamatthesistene Sun 24-Oct-21 19:44:54

Are you perhaps being a bit over sensitive?

GoodnightGrandma Sun 24-Oct-21 19:45:59

Don’t worry about it, and stop looking at people !

CocaColaTruck1 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:46:06

Do you think you've maybe noticed it because you didn't have DC to see to etc?

Alieninmybody Sun 24-Oct-21 19:46:22

I think you're imagining it.

Needspace21 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:47:13

@Letsallscreamatthesistene in what way? Can you explain?

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MyrtlethePurpleTurtle Sun 24-Oct-21 19:47:39

I think you were self consciously starting at these people and they, a bit freaked out, stared back grin

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Needspace21 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:49:06

@CocaColaTruck1 possibly but didn't realise how starey people can be. Everytime I looked up from my guardian newspaper in the cafe the woman was glaring at me. I didnt know where to look!

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SisforSoppy Sun 24-Oct-21 19:49:41

I wouldn’t stare at someone out on their own. I was single to my mid 30s and did many things in my own, although I drew the line at going to a restaurant or the cinema on my own. Now that I’m married I still wouldn’t go to the cinema alone, but I have eaten alone, although don’t like it. But I’ve not been aware of anyone staring. Are you sure you aren’t being over sensitive? I’d wear a huge smile and say ‘good afternoon’ to everyone I see and you might feel differently and get a different response.

HairyScaryMonster Sun 24-Oct-21 19:50:50

Needspace21

*@CocaColaTruck1* possibly but didn't realise how starey people can be. Everytime I looked up from my guardian newspaper in the cafe the woman was glaring at me. I didnt know where to look!

Maybe she was the daily mail type. Or do you have a Mumsnet scarf on 🤔

SunShinesBrightly Sun 24-Oct-21 19:51:27

You seem very aware of the people around you. I too wonder if you yourself are looking at people and they are actually just staring back.

Duchess379 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:51:27

Did you have your skirt tucked in your pants?? Jokes aside, I'm in my mid 40s & single & regularly take my dogs out for walks & I certainly don't get stared at or funny looks. 🤦🏼‍♀️

FreeChuro Sun 24-Oct-21 19:52:32

I spend a lot of time alone- dont think anyone takes any notice of me

Hawkins001 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:52:35

Needspace21

The last few days I have been hanging out alone as ex dp has the dcs over half term.
I've been on country walks, to cafes, to beaches etc., with my dogs. It's been lovely. One issue which has irked me slightly is how some people have really been staring at me. Is it because I'm a shameless 40 something out enjoying myself alone. Is that a crime? One woman in a cafe stared at me the whole time (to the point of ignoring her whole family sitting at the table with her). Another woman looked me up and down with distain when I went in her shop. Another woman scowled at me as I walked down the beach. Have people just got more starey? Do I look odd? What is going on?

Could it be your presuming they are thinking x, when in reality it could be something different ?

RobertaFirmino Sun 24-Oct-21 19:53:41

Needspace21

*@CocaColaTruck1* possibly but didn't realise how starey people can be. Everytime I looked up from my guardian newspaper in the cafe the woman was glaring at me. I didnt know where to look!

You should have given her a cheery wave! Either that or if she was the same age as you or younger, gone up to her and said 'I thought I recognised you - you were my old headmistress weren't you!'

SunShinesBrightly Sun 24-Oct-21 19:53:54

Needspace21

*@CocaColaTruck1* possibly but didn't realise how starey people can be. Everytime I looked up from my guardian newspaper in the cafe the woman was glaring at me. I didnt know where to look!

🤣 Just seen this! I honestly don’t know then!

IShouldProbablyHooverMore Sun 24-Oct-21 19:54:39

Ha ha, I get this some days, and always text my partner to tell him that today is obviously my two-head day.

Pandaly Sun 24-Oct-21 19:54:48

Are you wearing a silly hat?

Pandaly Sun 24-Oct-21 19:55:09

Do you look like/ are you someone famous?

SunShinesBrightly Sun 24-Oct-21 19:56:23

I think a cheery wave might be going a bit far (!) but I do like to unnerve strangers by smiling at them if they stare. Most of the time they just smile back.

Theunamedcat Sun 24-Oct-21 19:57:01

People stare at me too when I'm on my own im a 40 something mum I've had some comments like must be nice to have the money to do nothing job centre paying you well are they love? I'm actually a carer who has to get pit and about for my own mental health but you judge away love ❤

Fere Sun 24-Oct-21 19:57:19

You know they are staring/watching at you because you are staring at them!
I wouldn't know if anyone does because I don't pay any attention to people around me.

Willowrose63 Sun 24-Oct-21 19:58:26

Most likely people aren't staringsmileSometimes I feel similar a few days before my period, my sister is the same. Hormones I suppose hmm

statetrooperstacey Sun 24-Oct-21 20:01:44

Sounds like she was reading your paper.

TheYearOfSmallThings Sun 24-Oct-21 20:02:58

I don't think people are staring at you (unless you have a chip stuck to your face or something).

I think you were feeling self conscious about being out alone. In reality, it is a perfectly normal thing to do, and nobody would notice you at all.

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