If you do the school run in your exercise gear..

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TiffanyBucksFizzRainbowBright Thu 14-Oct-21 14:00:49

So on my days off I go to an exercise class with a friend, as my job is sedentary I really look forward to it and do the school run on those days in my exercise gear to save time as straight after. When I am working hubbie does the school run. So 9/10 when I'm doing the school run, I'm dropping off in my exercise gear. This week a mum who I don't speak to very often (and is known to be catty) looked at me and said 'you do try, don't you?'. When I asked her what she meant she said 'by going to the gym every day'. I'm torn between thinking she got her words out wrong, to her her being downright catty. I've asked two friends and both had opposite replies one thought she was being a bitch, the other who sees the good in everyone thought she must have not meant it that way. What would you have said to her in reply? I'm conscious now of wearing my gym gear now silly as it sounds! confused I wasn't aware I was 'trying'!

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NonShallot Thu 14-Oct-21 14:02:36

Yes it was catty, ignore her. What does it matter if you go to the gym every day or not?

BlowDryRat Thu 14-Oct-21 14:02:56

"Yes, I do." Big smile, tinkly laugh.

It could have been either and TBH I get my words/delivery wrong enough myself to give other people the benefit of the doubt. Even if she was being catty, who cares?

sunflowerdaisies Thu 14-Oct-21 14:03:54

I run and often drop off/collect in my running gear. I'd be a bit taken aback with this comment! I'd say something like I do like to keep fit, yes, but I'd probably want to make a more derogatory comment!

Bumblebee1223 Thu 14-Oct-21 14:04:55

That’s an obvious condescending put down. She’s probably just jealous. I wouldn’t have known what to say to that either.

DD isn’t in school yet but I really want to be one of the active Mums who exercises after drop off! I’m more of a go home and eat biscuits Mum though. Own it and don’t stop wearing your gym gear!

Blackmagicqueen Thu 14-Oct-21 14:06:06

Why can't some people just mind their own business instead of commenting/making bitchy remarks.

RosieLemonadeAndSugar Thu 14-Oct-21 14:06:41

'Yes I do, you should try it, you might like it' would have worked well with a big fake smile grin


WhiskyXray Thu 14-Oct-21 14:07:06

I wouldn't think it was catty! I think she was just making conversation.

Keep wearing your exercise gear.

Almost everyone wears a tracksuit at school drop off here.

Siennabear Thu 14-Oct-21 14:07:46

Wow how rude. I wouldn’t know if hat to say either. Carry on with what you’re doing. I can’t say I’ve ever noticed that I’ve ever noticed what anyone is wearing on the school run that much to comment on it. She must be very jealous!

Dentistlakes Thu 14-Oct-21 14:07:56

Yes, I think it was catty. You should have said ‘yes I do, perhaps you should try too!’, but I wouldn’t dare irl! Workout gear is pretty standard attire during drop off and pick up at my kids school (men and women). In fact, a lot of parents run beside their kids on their bikes/scooters and then go for a long run afterwards. You’re probably in the minority if you’re not wearing exercise gear!

ElspethFlashman Thu 14-Oct-21 14:08:00

"Well, shouldn't we all?" tinkly laugh.

Yes she was being catty.

LolaSmiles Thu 14-Oct-21 14:08:05

She was probably being catty. Ignore her though. It says a lot about her to want to say something like that.

custardbear Thu 14-Oct-21 14:10:16

I wear mine, and flip flops! I do y always exercise but generally wear comfy stuff at home.
I think by using the word 'try' this would irk me tbh- sounds like a back handed 'compliment' type of comment

custardbear Thu 14-Oct-21 14:11:01

*Don't always exercise ....

Xiaoxiong Thu 14-Oct-21 14:13:02

As in "you're a bit try-hard"? That is ridiculous - almost everyone at my kids' school is either in obvious work/office clothes, or exercise clothes on the school run.

I would play dumb: "Do I try...? Try what? No, seriously, what am I trying?"

Mypathtriedtokillme Thu 14-Oct-21 14:13:11

I drop my kids to school & preschool in gym gear as that’s when I go for a walk or run.
Sometimes I just walk to the local garden centre or a cafe, buy a coffee so I can sit in the park and read, alone without anyone talking to me.

It was a put down. She’s clearly a bitch so ignore her or just reply “obviously you don’t” then watch her little mind explode.

FTEngineerM Thu 14-Oct-21 14:14:17

Bitch 😬

TiffanyBucksFizzRainbowBright Thu 14-Oct-21 14:17:49

Thank you all. The replies you suggest are brilliant and I wish I could have come up with them! Exercise leggings it is! It was one of those where you think 'what?!' Rabbit in headlights! Maybe I'll add a few burpees or squats to the school run to show 'how hard I'm trying' 😉

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FrankieDobie Thu 14-Oct-21 14:20:19

She was being a bitch. “You do try” suggests that you don’t achieve what you’re setting out to achieve

adoreyou Thu 14-Oct-21 14:20:34

Yeah I read it as being catty.

Also wear my gym gear on 90% of the school runs... and I only go to the gym about 0.5% of the time 🤣🤣
But I WFH and it's the most comfortable thing to wear whilst sat at a desk!

Pls don't feel subconscious. The fact she made the comment most likely means she feels insecure because she never goes to the gym!

SheikhMaraca Thu 14-Oct-21 14:23:05

It was a horribly catty thing to say.

Please feel free not to answer, but are you by any chance carrying an extra pound or two? If so, it’s even worse.

imisscashmere Thu 14-Oct-21 14:29:02

She sounds like a bitch. I bet she isn’t used to being confronted.

Next time, stop dead in your tracks, look her in the eye, raise an eyebrow. Loudly - “excuse me, what do you mean?” And wait, unmoving, for an answer.


kwiksavenofrillsusername Thu 14-Oct-21 14:29:39

Wow. Cheeky cow. As a very lazy out of shape person, I can say I have nothing but admiration for the yoga pants mums. She’s probably jealous.

Tigerwhocameforsupper Thu 14-Oct-21 14:31:20

I set my gym gear to drop off, and then go straight home and eat biscuits. I have no intention of going to the gym, but the other mums always so so slim and sporty!

billy1966 Thu 14-Oct-21 14:34:57


How rude and how sad.

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