Was I coerced into unprotected sex?

Esperanza111 · 2021-10-14 08:18:35

Long story short , I met a guy and from the start he has been a nightmare. I told him that he has to use a condom as I do not want to get pregnant and I’m not on the pill. He at first agreed but one time we were having sex and he put it in, I though he was about to pull out to put on protection but I was shocked to see him pulling out and ejaculating. Lo and behold two weeks later I get a positive pregnancy test. Unfortunately that ended in a miscarriage and i was struggling to cope with it all. I went to visit him for some comfort after loosing the pregnancy and he did it again. He had a full pack of condoms in his bag but never used them once. He started talking to me about having another baby and how nice it would be. I wasn’t in the right state of mind but all that baby talk made me feel okay about not using protection. I don’t know if it was because I’m still grieving or what but he told me it was fine if we had another baby so let’s not worry about protection. Well, next day after that he went cold on me, wouldn’t talk to me at all, came up to me and had sex with me unprotected again then continued to not speak to me. He even shouted at me when I asked what he was doing and told me to leave him alone. I went back to sleep as there was nothing else for me to do. Next day I went home and he was supposed to drop me off at the airport but left me at a bus stop in a foreign country, told me he couldn’t be bothered to come with me and walked of leaving me there while I was screaming and crying for him to come back. Luckily I made my way there, but all the while he messaged me to say that it was a mistake trying to get me pregnant and now I should go and take the morning after pill. He has also blocked me . I never agreed to unprotected sex. In fact I have the messages saying he has to wear a condom. There is more to this story but I’m pretty sure this is classed as reproductive coercion? What do you think?

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Hi all, and thanks to those who have given help and advice so far. We can see that the thread isn't really helping the OP and as it's gone a bit off track, we've taken it down now.