I went to a private school, and achieved very well academically.
My children go to a state school, as I can't afford private school. I will never be able to afford it sadly. They go to the local community school, which has a reputation for not being academic.
My eldest is extremely bright, and tested many years ahead of her age on entering the local primary. Now, she has failed to even get to the second round of the 11+. She has really just coasted at school, as they have not set any appropriate work for her, despite multiple requests. They say they can't offer 'gifted and talented' provision, due to funding.
Her sibling is very behind on learning, as she missed loads of school due to lockdowns, and the school offered very little remote provision throughout most of the time. I have asked for support for her, but am told that nothing is available, again, due to funding. Meanwhile, she is struggling with even the basics.
I do think that both of my children would have done better, had they gone to a school where their individual abilities and learning stage was catered for, and they were helped to achieve their potential. I feel I have let them down by not providing them with a good education, which they could have had if I had the money.
Now it's looking likely my eldest will have to go to the terrible, and rough, local secondary, and the underachieving will continue.
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To feel I have utterly let down my children by sending then to a state school?
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hibbledibble · 26/09/2021 00:06
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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Neonplant ·
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