"Daddy Daughter Date" AIBU?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Friend is seperated. Her ex has the kids EOW and takes them out once a week each individually. All good. Except she insists on calling the time he spends with their dd as a Daddy Daughter Date. I cannot satisfactorily explain why but it winds me up! It just sounds wrong somehow, not in an inappropriate way dont get me wrong, just nauseating and twee and I get the ick whenever she says it. FYI when he does the same with her son she doesnt call that a Daddy Son Date. She doesnt say it about her and her dd when they go out but does call it a Mummy Son Date when its her and the boy.....vom....

AIBU for hating this phrase? I know IABU for getting so wound up over something that does not impact me in anyway!

[psbradio2]

I'm the same OP.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I should add that I think one of the reasons I hate DDD slightly more than MSD is the alliterative nature of it makes it sound even more stupid!

[Foxglovesandlilacs86]

Same here, it’s always the same types who do it.

[ShanghaiDiva]

I hate this phrase too. A daughter spending time with her dad is not a ‘date’.

[ManifestingJoy]

Eeeeooooow

[Redglitter]

Totally agree. I hate it. Its not a date it's just spending time with

[Sn0tnose]

Hate it. It’s creepy. I also hate play dates and date nights.

[ANameChangeAgain]

Yanbu. Its a toe curler.

[Notimeforaname]

Yep freaks me out as much as play dates!

[MakeMineALarge1]

I hate it as well, to me a date is 2 consenting adults who may or may not go on to have a sexual relationship - therefore I feel it is an inappropriate term.

But lots of things annoy me.

[Glssr195726113493]

Blurgh. That’s gross. And also a bit ‘fond’ considering they’re exes.

[Macncheeseballs]

Is he giles coren?

[VanGoSunflowers]

I agree OP. I’d hate that too.

[WoozySnoozy]

Bit weird. It's like when people say their child's dad is babysitting.

[thefourgp]

I agree with you. Who wants to date their child? It’s creepy and not cute like she thinks it is.

[ilovepuppies2019]

I think it would annoy because it suggests that a parent spending time with their child is 'extra special' when it's just a parent being a parent. On a normal day I'd just call that lunch 😂 Ideally a child getting to see a parent wouldn't be an event but a normal part of life. I could come with this if the day was a particularly special event (e.g some schools do Daddy / daughter dances) but other than this it would annoy me as well!

[MobyDicksTinyCanoe]

For those frothing at the dad HE isn't the one saying it....

I agree it is cringey op. It seems to have floated over from America along with calling school discos ' proms' amd baby showers.

Just no.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Ironically, they dont get on at all well, but she is the sort to make everything into a "look at me" opportunity. I think that this is just another twee attempt at that.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

To confirm, it isnt HIM saying it, its her. I get the impression that it annoys him too but lets it go as they have so much other stuff they fall out over!

[Clymene]

It's revolting and sort of sexualising the time adults spend with their s children of the opposite sex.

Yuck

[esloquehay]

I find it mildly nauseating.
However, I also hate the term 'playdate' (is it two separate words, or does it have a hyphen? I know not).
Daddy Daughter Date is just bleurgh.
🤢

[DrWankincense]

If YABU then AIBU too.
Hate it.

[fuzzymoomin]

I think it's cringey too, ick. A parent spending time with their child is not a date. Equally cringey, I've seen social media posts where the dad takes the early/mid teen out on her first "date" so she can learn how she deserves to be treated well or something vomity, eugh.

[VienneseWhirligig]

Just musing - at what age does it stop being a "Daddy Daughter Date" and just become a daughter hanging out with her dad? Could me and my dad going to the pub together be considered a DDD? How about my (adult) son going out for the day with my mum, is that a "Nan Grandson Date"? Obviously not, which means it's unbelievably twee. Yuk.

[Peanutsandchilli]

It's nothing to do with you and it's a little sad to get all wound up and feel you have to ask strangers on the internet about it. It's nice that the kids get to spend time with their parents and feel special. Who cares what they call it?