So...my in laws, bizzare to say the least.
My parent was physically abused by his father growing up, he has metal plates in his hips (aged 11) and broken nose. When I first met him I thought why is he still in contact with his parents? And he said it was for his mum, who let her own children leave home at 16 to live in a hostal.
Anyway, I thought I would stand by him and do what I needed to do, so was nice to them, would visit when he wanted etc.
I had our first child 2019, now they NEVER came to visit us, the only time they see my DC is if we go there. I used to get texted when I was pregnant 'you don't bother with me' 'I'm left out' 'it's all about your family' - for context my mum died 10 years ago, my grandad passed away last year and I literally have my dad and my Nan. The only two who bother with ny DC.we've had nothing but trouble off of them, they lie, they stir, they've been rude to me on so many occasions, but again - I do it for my partner.
Fast forward to this year, I had my second baby. MIL said she would come up when I went in for my c section, got to the Friday before and she told me she was too busy now.
Didn't bother coming to meet their only granddaughter, my partner eventually took us down there when my daughter was 2 months old. I got told I apparently rub it in their faces that I post pictures of my kids??? If you're that bothered come up and see them. Why should it be us constantly going to them.
Anyway, she texted me a few weeks ago and asked when she was 'coming up for a drink' now I thought I would test her and said 'not until November but feel free to come up and see the children before'
Baring in mind she's never bothered coming before, so if instantly got my back up that she was asking because ir involved drink. She replied 'I let you know' which instantly gave me the right arse. I asked her out right why don't you two bother with your grandkids, I got told they're busy as they've just moved. But that doesn't excuse the other 2.5 years you haven't bothered with them.
My partner asked her if she would come up for a week and stay and just help with the kids as I'm working from home to give my Nan who is 77 a rest just for a few days. The reply was 'bring DC1 down here'. I just lost it and blew my top, you're happy enough to come up for a drink but not to see your grandkids, I just don't get it. So I went mad at them both and im completely done now.
AIBU, should I have just shut up and carried on as we were in a one sided abusive set up? My partner isn't pleased I stuck up and answered them.
Sorry it's long but feel like im crazy lol!!
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2littleonesx · 22/09/2021 05:15
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22/09/2021 07:27
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