AIBU if I don't want to see my OH family every week?
Context me and OH don't live together currently but have got 9w old. We both live with our families. OH works a rolling shift pattern and has four days off every time his working week ends. He uses those days off to visit me and baby and to help out as I do it mostly alone the rest of the time!
Since baby was born, each time OH has his days off we have been staying at his families house. In the beginning I didn't mind as I wanted them to meet and bond with baby. However, 9w later I am starting to get frustrated and drained. I end up being more tired even though it's supposed to be when I can relax a little as OH is there to help! I don't get to catch up on what I need to do because I'm not home & end up more tired than if I was staying at my house. It has resulted in bickering every time I am there!
It also puts baby out of routine as they refuse naps (not a great napper anyway as too alert) and are constantly being fussed and held. If I try and take baby away for a feed/ nap/ quiet time I get a guilty feeling like they are not happy with me. Also had a situation with MIL not being happy that I didn't eat dinner at same time as them because it clashed with bath and bed time( I think baby routine should come first
They have also never offered to take babe to let me nap or have time to myself, I am expected to just watch them fuss him and be on hand for sick and crying
AIBU if I try to phase out staying there every time OH is off work? My thoughts is that they wouldn't see babe this much if we were living together (4days in every 10) so why am I made to feel they should see babe every time OH is free from work. We get no alone time and I end up more exhausted than usual!
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AIBU: OH family is draining me
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NewAndTired · 22/09/2021 02:25
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