WARNING talk of children and porn/sex
I'm not sure if I am being unreasonable and should just stay out of it or whether I should say something to DH about this.
I have a DSS who is 11 (nearly 12 actually). Basically my husband's ex rang him yesterday absolutely horrified that she'd found him watching porn on his phone, she was fuming so was DH who went over there and told him off.
When he came back and told me about it I just felt really angry for DSS and like they both handled it fucking appallingly.
DH (and his ex, I saw the messages as they were talking again about it later she was sending DH copies of what he'd been watching to show how awful it was (I know lots of people don't agree with porn but it wasn't anything "out there" but I appreciate seeing your child watching it can be upsetting) was going on about how sick it made him feel because he was far too young, how does he even know what it is, must be his friends who encouraged it, maybe he shouldn't hang out with them anymore, DSS isn't allowed his phone anymore, is grounded and so on...
Basically just going on as if the poor kid had committed some awful sin.
I tried to say to DH that he's getting older and he will start to want to explore this and maybe he needs to actually speak to him about sex but he thinks this is ridiculous and disgusting and far too young.
I've come away from the conversation actually really upset for DSS who was apparently mortified that his Mum had told his Dad who'd turned up and was crying. I think they've really fucked this up and missed a perfectly good opportunity to have "the talk" in a positive way with him.
I appreciate it's probably none of my business but I'm really annoyed with DH and thinks he needs to deal with the fact his son is not a baby anymore and will start to grow up in this way and not take that out on him.
I think he needs to fix this and try again. AIBU to tell him I think he handled this so wrong and stand up for DSS?
I've been here a while so I know this subject may cause people to question this situation but this is 100% true and I'm really, really annoyed about it.
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AIBU?
To think they handled this really badly and be really annoyed
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NcButBeenHereAges · 21/09/2021 09:10
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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