My friends father is in hospital. He's 92, has various ailments, and has caught Covid. Until now he's been living at home with his girlfriend of many, many years.
My friend and the girlfriend don't really get on. Her mother died when she and her sister were in their teens. When they were adults, the father got together with the girlfriend and has lived with her ever since. She was also widowed, and has adult children (who live in a different country). She has never been their mother, or tried to be.
The father is a very successful businessman, has plenty of money. He's a real old-school patriarch. He has always expected everyone in the family to jump when he clicks his fingers. His girlfriend has never worked, he has and continues to pay all the bills for both their lives over the years (they live overseas and have servants to do all their domestic / caring work, always have).
My friend is already saying that there's no way she is going to keep paying the girlfriend's living expenses if her father dies. She is aware of the contents of her fathers will, and they do not include leaving anything for the girlfriend. The girlfriend has relied on the father for everything financially for years. Their apartment is rented, and he pays the rent. But she's in her 80s now - she can't exactly go out and get a job! Her own children will have to step in and provide for her I guess.
I can see my friend's pov but I really feel for the girlfriend. She has ended up in a really vulnerable position - although she's had all her bills paid for and her lifestyle supported all these years, she'll come out of it with nothing to live on. She doesn't own anything and they have never married.
I have another friend who's MIL is in the same position - relying on her better-off partner financially as her own pension is so small, living in his property, not married and unlikely to be provided for in a will.
Is my friend being unreasonable to not carry on where her father will eventually leave off?
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workwoes123 · 18/09/2021 11:47
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