My sibling is always in and out of dramatic and scandalous relationships. The type where he ditches his fiancée and hooks up with her stepmother and expects everyone to simper and accept it for the five months he makes it last for.
He's got two sons on a 50/50 custody arrangement and he moves these women in with him at the drop of a hat, so the boys have had new mother figures in and out of their lives like a set of revolving mummy doors. They're 14 and 12 now. The 12 year old has some signs of an emotional disorder or anxiety- he is really clingy and tearful a lot of the time. I love my nephews madly and would do anything for them, but I was really pissed off today.
DB has been single for about 8 months which is probably a record for him. He and his sons have sorted out a nice routine, they've grown closer, they're settling a bit and my nephew is really starting to genuinely smile and relax.
Last night I got a text message asking if I can have the boys this weekend and get them to school on Monday as something's urgently come up. I asked why their mum can't have them and he said she's being difficult and saying it's his contact time. I know her and I don't think she'd say that. I asked what his emergency was and he said that he's been seeing a woman for the last two weeks and he's wanting to get away with her for a long weekend before introducing her to his boys!
Not only that but a few months ago he got drunk at a bbq and really insulted my husband and our neighbour. They were talking about a scout camp that they're helpers on because our boys are going on it and he loudly called over that he couldn't work out if DH and neighbour were "classic scout pedos" or "trying to fuck some old lady scout leaders." Started chanting "pedo pedo pedo" like a football chant and I wouldn't blame DH if he never wanted to talk to him again. He's not apologised for it to either of them because he says he can't remember it and he would have meant it as a joke. Chanting pedo pedo in the street and pointing at my DH and neighbour isn't a joke and could have had horrible repercussions!
Am I right to say absolutely no way I'm doing this?! He's laid it on thick with the "we are so happy" and how they're so looking forward to it, and how wonderful it's going to be for his mental health. I would always have my nephews but not so he can go and have a dirty weekend before bringing yet another woman in and showing his boys once again that they're not the priority for him. Dh has said no way. But I don't want to just say no. I want to tell him he's a cheeky fucker!
AIBU?
To think this is CF territory and say No?
MissConventionality · 06/09/2021 19:09
YADNBU.
My Uncle is the same. He has a 13YO (same age as my eldest DD) and he’s had about 7 step Mums. He also has a 5YO (same age as my youngest DD) who he doesn’t see because his Mums “crazy” 
No, she was actually so worn down after 7 years of his excessive drinking and tantrums that she left when their child was a baby and being as he can’t drag a baby to the pub with him, he’s just never bothered his arse.
He buys a house with them, whilst renting out the one he’s lived in for about 30 years, relationship goes to shit (because he’s a massive twat, a cheat, and at the very least, verbally abusive), poor tenants get a S21, he moves back in, and a maximum of 8 weeks later there’s someone else.
My Dad can’t stand him and sees him once a year for Christmas. I’ve managed to dodge him for 4 years now 
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