Name changed for this and apologies for the lengthy post.
DD (11) has a friend staying over tonight for a sleepover. It was planned a few days ago and I asked the friends parents who were more than happy for their DD (also 11) to stay over and thanked me saying how excited their DD was.
The friend was dropped off by her DM at around 4pm and everything was going great. Girls had a takeaway, played board games, painted their nails, had facemasks, took the dog for a walk, went to get sweets, played with make up and planned to watch both princess diaries movies. They were having a proper girlie night.
Anyways at around 10pm the friends DM sent me text asking if everything was going OK, I said it was, and then sent another text letting me know that they're seeing family tomorrow and that she'll be picking her DD up on the way at at around 9:30am and that she hopes her DD will be able to get some sleep and won't be too tired during the day. I had no idea that they had something planned until that text.
At that point my DD and the friend were half way through the second princess diaries movie and eating popcorn. So I went up and told them to change into their pyjamas and told them it was bed time after the movie ended as I now had to wake the friend up at 8:00am so she could can get changed and have breakfast before her DM picked her up. Girls were a little disappointed as I'd previously told them they could stay up un until midnight as I thought they could have a lie in and friend could go home early afternoon.
I told the friend that I'd spoken to her DM and that she'll have to wake up at 8:00am, thinking she wouldn't know about the event planned for the following day as I genuinely thought it was a last minute thing as I only found out about it myself at 10pm but after speaking to the friend I found out this family gathering been planned for a while.
I feel so uncomfortable and stressed as it was pushing 11pm by the time the movie ended and I told the girls they needed to get some sleep but naturally, as you'd expect in a sleepover, they're still wide awake and there is little sign of sleep. Lights are off but they're still talking, laughing, getting out of bed, tv being switched on to watch YouTube etc and I'd be surprised if they're asleep before 3am. They're currently asking the Alexa in DDs room to make funny fart and burping burping noises and to tell funny jokes. They're not being overly loud and naughty, they're just being kids having fun.
I've been up twice to tell them to try and get some sleep but it's pointless and to be honest I don't want to spoil their fun. It's the first sleepover DD has had before the lockdown and I feel really bad for her and for the friend for being such a bore.
AIBU to think the friends DM should have just said no to the sleepover knowing her DD had an early start and a busy day with family, and if she would have said something when I first asked if her DD could stay over then I would have and rescheduled for another more convenient night. What do I say to the DM when she picks up her DD and she's clearly knackered from little sleep and all the excitement? I feel like I'll be blamed because she notified me, even though it was very last minute, that her DD has an early start and her DD is clearly having a very late night.
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AIBU to think she should have just said no to the sleepover?
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aimbu123456789 · 01/08/2021 01:20
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