What would you think if your dp did this with a colleague?

[Tinaburner77]

A woman the same age who he’s worked with there for quite a while. They went out as a whole department drinking together every Friday night for the last few weeks.

He said I wouldn’t like it as I’d be bored/they only talk about work etc.

Apparently one night she tried to invite him back ‘for a few beers’ and he said he was tired so he’d come back here and she said ‘Ooh you want to go back to your girlfriend do you!”

One night he came in at 7am which was really unlike him, usually back by midnight, I was worried and he hadn’t replied to my texts. Came in saying they had all been stuck at someone’s flat or something? Found out a week later that he had been alone with her at hers until then, swears nothing happened and they were ‘just chatting?’ Then going on about why can’t men and women be friends, even his best friend was saying that it was out of order doing that to me.

The weekend after he’s out again, I’m in bed and hear him come in at 3am.. with her!! I’m in my pjs and half asleep, never met her and not letting her see me like that. Heard them talking and I just listened from outside, he came in the room and told me she was ‘waiting for a lift home’. (She lived a mile away). Swore I heard her say at one point ‘Do you want me to take this off?’ And don’t know if it was just my imagination but could have sworn I heard kissing sounds. They left 2h later and he came back claiming they had ‘been to McDonald’s’.

I asked if I could meet her and he said “wouldn’t it be weird?”

They’re having an affair aren’t they?
They work together every day, what’s the need for all these nights out that I’m never invited to?
He’s cheating surely ?

[Tinaburner77]

Apparently she’s very loud, big drinker, party girl, smokes weed etc. Basically very different to me. Looks like one of those hipster types.
I want to punch them both. Been with him 3 years nearly.

[SandysMam]

Is this a wind up Op?!! Of course he’s having an affair, you surely don’t need us to tell you!!

[TwinkleToeMatilda]

Surely if he was cheating on you with her then he wouldn’t bring her back to your home whilst you was there!? I mean if that is the case then he really is a twat!!!

[BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand]

It doesn't look good. Going for work drinks is fine, but married men don't stay out until 7am chatting with female friends if there is nothing more to it.

Maybe he likes her, maybe it's reciprocated, maybe it's progressed to an actual affair. Whichever one it is, it's not good.

Staying out until 7am without texting is well out of order regardless of who he's with.

[Tinaburner77]

I wish it were a wind up. He swears he’s never cheated. How on earth can they be so brazen, it’s so obvious he fancies her.

[FayeFayeFayeFayeFaye]

I would say that yes he is cheating.

[BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand]

Sorry, thought I read that you were married.

It doesn't change my advice though - you need to have a very frank talk with him about this. And try not to let him gaslight you, because what he's doing isn't normal.

[Monday26July]

They’re having an affair, yes.

So what are you planning to do?

[Tinaburner77]

Yeah, why does he need to go to hers till 7am?!
Also lying to me about it for a week which is the worst part.

[Aquamarine1029]

He's having an affair pretty much right in front of your face and playing you for a fool. Get rid.

[Tinaburner77]

He doesn’t want me to meet her either, very convenient.
She left her jacket on our floor after coming here, I wanted to put it in the bin.

[Tinaburner77]

When they came here whilst I was in bed, I wanted to burst out and catch them at it, then Chuck a bucket of water over them or something, if only.
He also has mentionitis with her.

[LoverOfAllThingsPurple]

I would be like what the actual fucking fuck? What the hell is he playing at? What a bloody tramp. I’d be tearing in to the pair of them and finding out. If your SO thought of anything of you and your relationship he wouldn’t be pulling such shit. What a prize prick. He’s being extremely unfair to you and so disrespectful. You know it’s absolute bullshit when even his best mate thinks he’s out of order. Don’t tolerate anymore 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[5togo]

Very brazen. They couldn’t make it more obvious.

[Aquamarine1029]

@Tinaburner77

When they came here whilst I was in bed, I wanted to burst out and catch them at it, then Chuck a bucket of water over them or something, if only.
He also has mentionitis with her.

I really don't understand why you didn't walk in on them. You allowed this in your own home. Come on, now!

[Anotherday21]

Bin him. What a dreadful man.

[gamerchick]

He's blatantly taking the piss out of you OP. This is come to Jesus conversation territory man. Assert yourself! Tell the fucker to pack a bag and fuck off to hers.

[CoronaPeroni]

Call it a day. Why would you want to fight for someone with no respect for you?

[checkingforballoons]

Even if they are just friends, he’s treating you like crap.

[Tinaburner77]

I need more backbone I guess. I wish I had burst in and told them to get the fuck out.

[Angelofchaos]

If dp stayed out til 7am at some womans house, just them and lied about it. It would be over there and then.

The bringing her back to yours, then going back out hours later for a McDonald's? Wtf?

He is really taking the piss out of you.

[user1471539324]

@Tinaburner77

He doesn’t want me to meet her either, very convenient.
She left her jacket on our floor after coming here, I wanted to put it in the bin.

I would bet money on her leaving her jacket so that you’d find it. Even if nothing has happened, if she wants it to then that’s a good way to cause trouble in your relationship

He’s a shit but I don’t have much respect for her either.

[nimbuscloud]

He’s in a relationship
Is she?

[Iggly]

I’m not sure how many other signs you need OP. Did you need to see the kissing???

Really sorry, but he’s a cheating wanker.

[Tinaburner77]

Oh and she also left her initials on all his lighters, the tart. I need to move out.