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To ask how you withdraw completely from society?

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DancingwithDaffodils · 30/07/2021 21:41

I don’t want to be part of our society. I don’t like anything about it. I want to completely withdraw, does anyone know how to do that?

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JustFrigginNameChange · 30/07/2021 21:43

Are you okay?

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Carpedimum · 30/07/2021 21:44

Check out Ben Google’s ‘New Lives in the Wild’ - there’s plenty of people who live happily all over the planet separate from society. I must admit it appeals to me at times!

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StarryStarrySocks · 30/07/2021 21:44

It would be impossible to do this nowadays.

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fallfallfall · 30/07/2021 21:44

i have a few friends who have gone off grid.

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Leafyhouse · 30/07/2021 21:44

Home delivery, self isolate, I don't blame you OP. Feel like that myself at the moment.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 30/07/2021 21:46

I'd echo the previous poster and would want to check how you're feeling that's made you feel like that's a reasonable response?

Practically, you'd be looking at moving to a remote area and attempting to be totally self sufficient but it is very very difficult to be absolutely 100% self sufficient.

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idontlikealdi · 30/07/2021 21:46

You can go off grid if you the resource, resilience and funds. Bigger question is why though?

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Athrawes · 30/07/2021 21:46

Get off Mumsnet, for starters.

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user1471462428 · 30/07/2021 21:47

Buy an island? Sometimes there are warden jobs on islands and lighthouses. Or perhaps a small holding and try and be self reliant.

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PegasusReturns · 30/07/2021 21:49

Are you ok?

There’s definitely options to live off the grid but something about your OP worries me. Do you want to talk?

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HarrisMcCoo · 30/07/2021 21:49

Not surprised with this Covid 19 world we live in! I sometimes just yearn for the way things were in 2019...no masks, no social distancing etc.

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DancingwithDaffodils · 30/07/2021 21:50

I can’t tolerate anyone really. I don’t feel depressed or unhappy, I just don’t want anything to do with society. I want to disappear completely in terms of digital footprint but am not sure how. I want to be erased to not exist on any kind of database, or records of any sort.

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FoxglovesRosesandPeonies · 30/07/2021 21:53

Nunnery?

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StarryStarrySocks · 30/07/2021 21:55

If there's no record of you anywhere, how do you get money? Or health treatment when you need it?

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MiniTheMinx · 30/07/2021 21:57

@DancingwithDaffodils

I can’t tolerate anyone really. I don’t feel depressed or unhappy, I just don’t want anything to do with society. I want to disappear completely in terms of digital footprint but am not sure how. I want to be erased to not exist on any kind of database, or records of any sort.

I was going to suggest setting up a Go Fund Me page for sponsorship to be a hermit.

In light of the last comment, only option is to fake your own demise.
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Veryverycalmnow · 30/07/2021 21:57

Do you see this being a forever thing, or do you just want to try and go off grid for a bit.
Is it a feeling you've had for long?

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Porcupineintherough · 30/07/2021 21:57

Just come off social media and stop using email/the internet, refue benefits or healthcare and you'll fall through the cracks easily enough.

If you want to do a thorough job, give up all your possessions, go on the streets for a bit and choose a new name. But you'll have to stay on the very fringes of society because things like bank accounts, owning or renting property, etc wont be possible for you.

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LemonRoses · 30/07/2021 21:59

Join the Poor Claire’s and lead a life of contemplation?

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Alternista · 30/07/2021 21:59

Interesting question.
Do you have the funds to support yourself forever? I guess you’d need to buy a decent plot of land, grow your own food, herbs for medicine etc. I have no idea how you erase yourself from government systems in terms of tax, the NHS etc.

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Regularsizedrudy · 30/07/2021 22:02

Hmm oh yeah society is just awful, I hate having healthcare, schools, banks, loans, roads…

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41stars · 30/07/2021 22:05

@DancingwithDaffodils

I can’t tolerate anyone really. I don’t feel depressed or unhappy, I just don’t want anything to do with society. I want to disappear completely in terms of digital footprint but am not sure how. I want to be erased to not exist on any kind of database, or records of any sort.

You sound positively attention seeking with just this statement!

If you wanted to digitally remove yourself from the universe but you post on here...... mmm, OK OP.
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RancidOldHag · 30/07/2021 22:06

I think it wouid be hard to come off all data bases. I'm assuming you'll need to own where you live, so you'll need a record of your title to the land. Births and marriages/divorces can't be expunged either.

You'll probably need some cash (total self sufficiency is hard) so some form of banking. And you may need to prove your identity to set up even the most basic of accounts. It's hard to the point of impossible to be self-sufficient for medical matters and dentistry (and if you're going to keep livestock, vets). You can manage without running water but only if you have a property will a well or a stream, and probably electricity, especially if you have set-up money to get as much solar powered as possible.

Also, what is you plan for old age?

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Porcupineintherough · 30/07/2021 22:06

If you buy land you'll be on the land registry database. Land ownership is out.

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PrettyLittleFlies · 30/07/2021 22:12

Probably a step-by-step approach.

  1. Remove yourself from mailing lists, quit social media, stop answering emails and texts.


  1. Buy only neccesities. If going out irritates you, order online.


  1. Move to a secluded place, be as self sufficient as possible.


In time, all your contacts will fall away and you'll be forgotten. It happens to a lot of people naturally as they age but you can speed up the process.

If it is more that you have too many arseholes in your life, there are ways to reshape, so to speak. Like, delete them and only answer messages from people you value.
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Silvercatowner · 30/07/2021 22:13

But what would you do if your appendix burst? Or you had an infected wisdom tooth? I had both last year and was very glad of 'society'.

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