Never ever have I ever posted on AIBU before but, fuck me I'm a bit upset and a bit fucked off so tell me this...
OH had some virtual interviews this afternoon, I said how did they go blah blah normal chit chat
He said he really rated 2/6 people one was a guy and one was a woman. He said he was more towards the woman as she was the only one who put her camera on for the interview but they both said similar things (all the right things for the company!)
I said I was shocked only 1 person put the camera on out of 6 as id assumed a dinstanced interview still would be better to see faces but it was really good as it would help discrimination etc
Ok that's the rather boring back story
I said, was she smoking hot (gently ribbing - yes we do this, no it wasn't a jealousy dig, he works with lots of attractive men & women)
He said 'nah she was a plus' and then looked absolutely fucking horrified, literally like he couldn't believe he said that to me (wrong crowd for sure!) I'm said.. you what? What did you just say?
He actually went fucking red meanwhile I'm going red with rage (I'm a 'plus' too! Size 18 & happy!)
He tries the whole no no you said it was a plus she showed her face (insert lame excuses here)
I said hes disgusting and does he look at me like I can't possibly be pretty as a 'plus'
He THEN SAYS
'No because I dont see you in that way'
Mans lucky I didn't chuck my drink over him.
See me in what way?
'You're just perfect to me I dont look at you and see your body I look at you and see you for you, I love you'
Weeding his way out, I'm actually shocked and raging internally.
Opinions?
Is my fella of 15 years an absolute jerk or am I just over reacting at a small comment right now?
Does he really speak about women this way at work or to his friends? Knowing I'm his partner and have met most of these people? Is that really acceptable?
I feel embarassed for him & kind of for myself if this is how he speaks about fatter folk. I may not be ideal in weight but he has never ever shown anything like this to me before. I've been a size 10 to a size 20 and hes never treated me any differently but now I'm just not quite sure what these actual feelings are.
Go ahead give me your opinions.
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GoAheadTrollMe · 29/07/2021 19:57
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
622 votes. Final results.
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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