My DH believes the vaccine will result in mass genocide

[IrisTee]

Im at my wits end. It's all he talks about.

He believes that covid has been over dramatised, masks are a waste of time and that the vaccine is going to kill millions of people over the next few years. He thinks it's a "depopulation" exercise and a way to control the masses. He said if I take the vaccine he will leave me.

He's been buying "survivalist" gear such as tents/ shovels/ emergency matches/ god knows what else. There's numerous packages arriving at the house every day. He's spent over a thousand pounds on this stuff.

Aibu to just be sick of the whole bloody thing??? I want to talk about something else, something normal but it all just comes back to this. What would you do?

[Howcanthisbe123]

I’d be seriously worried, no seriously, I’m all for independent thinking, but his going a little far don’t you think!

[rose69]

Have the vaccine so at least you get to stay in the house whilst he lives in a tent

[IrisTee]

Thanks, Yes, exactly. I am worried. He's taken it way too far and he's trying to convince me that I'm the crazy one for not going along with him.
Hence my need for some outside perspective.

[gingganggooleywotsit]

He needs help send him to the doctors

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

I think he needs to talk to a professional which might be pretty hard to do. Or someone outside home he trusts at leaat. Ime when people go overboard like this it's set of by some other issue they can't really control or feel they can't.

Is it his personal or joint money he is spending? If the latter it can't go on

[IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves]

I'd leave before his tin foil hat started talking to him.

[ApolloandDaphne]

Has he got mental health issues?

[Anonymous48]

I'm sorry you are married to this man. I couldn't stay married to him if it was my husband. I hope you do the right thing and get vaccinated anyway. If he leaves you it will probably be for the best.

[Itsprobablynotcominghome]

Was he always this way?

Surely this isn’t something that happens overnight?

[IrisTee]

I think he could use some professional help too, he was never like this before. The problem is he genuinely 100% believes that he is in the right. I don't know how I'd ever get him to even consider that he might not be.

[penguinwithasuitcase]

In all seriousness, he sounds like his mental health is not in a good place.

I'd have my own quick-grab escape bag packed and hidden somewhere in case things turn unpleasant.

Is he showing other signs of poor mental health? Odd sleep patterns, mood swings, not managing normal tasks?

[Attheheart]

Is this usual for him or just Covid? It's very extreme behaviour, I'd be worried unless he's always been this way inclined.

I have no idea how you'd get him help if he doesn't want it though

[titchy]

Get the vaccine. Tell him. He'll leave. Job done surely.

Or is this a genuine MH crisis which leaves him incapable of working and living, in which case you need to involve his GP urgently.

[tiredanddangerous]

I think you should call his gp in the first instance. These are not the actions of a man who is mentally well.

[ThinWomansBrain]

"D?"H
as in demented?

Given that it would clearly make him feel a lot more comfortable, suggest that he runs for the hills.
Failing that, l'd eave myself.
If he believes that the end of the world is nigh, you should get a pretty good settlement.

Take the vaccine, wear the sticker, hope that he carries out his promise.

[VanCleefArpels]

Has he always been into conspiracy theories etc or has there been a particular trigger for this? It sounds to me like the manifestation of mental illness but I’m no medical professional. I’d quietly go and get the vaccine if that is your choice and not mention it to him. Nod and smile and deflect and (we hope!) he will be proved wrong eventually

[Itsprobablynotcominghome]

@ThinWomansBrain

"D?"H
as in demented?

Given that it would clearly make him feel a lot more comfortable, suggest that he runs for the hills.
Failing that, l'd eave myself.
If he believes that the end of the world is nigh, you should get a pretty good settlement.

Take the vaccine, wear the sticker, hope that he carries out his promise.

Haha. This reminds me of an episode of Parks and Rec. Some end of the world crazies rent out a park every few years as they predict the world will end. Ron sells them hand crafted flutes for a ridiculous price, and the guy says can he pay by cheque (and thinks he’s won because the world will end). Ron’s face gets me every time.

[Pollypocket89]

I think the tents etc sound ott but the pp saying do the right thing and have the vaccine etc... People are allowed to have different thoughts on that. If it was that alone, it wouldn't worry me

[IrisTee]

I've been married to him for 12 years, he's never shown any signs of this before. It's all to do with covid.
Before the lockdown he was out at work everyday, busy and interacting with lots of people on a daily basis.
Now since wfh he's got more time on his own (haven't we all though) and I feel like he's been sucked in to this thought pattern.

[SchrodingersImmigrant]

Has anything else happen? At work maybe losing a job or be at risk of it, some other diagnosis in a family or him? Can be smaller things but something set him off if he wasn't pike this before.

Mn understanding to male MH issues as usually I see....

[Blacktothepink]

Ltb! He sounds deluded and dangerous 😟

[ArchbishopOfBanterbury]

Have the vaccine. Don't tell him, if you prefer, but have it anyway. Don't put your health at risk because of his brainwashing.

[Itsprobablynotcominghome]

@Pollypocket89

I think the tents etc sound ott but the pp saying do the right thing and have the vaccine etc... People are allowed to have different thoughts on that. If it was that alone, it wouldn't worry me

But what if he get covid whilst the shitstorm goes down? Has he prepared for that? Ventilators ain’t cheap, oxgyen canisters bulky.

I wouldn’t want to be camped in the woods with covid.

[IrisTee]

I agree Polly, however, I think saying he would leave me if I got it is a bit ott.

Honestly, it's all he talks about and thinks about- I don't know who he is anymore!