Second date fucking weird

[seconddateshithead]

Is this just me?!

Just went for a lovely second date with a guy from old. All good. Doesn't seem crazy or obsessed with ex.

His phone keeps pinging throughout our meal from his friend. Asking how the date is etc

He keeps saying oh I should turn this off. But he doesn't. He replies each bloody time.

End of meal. I'm thinking nice walk. Maybe chill on the terrace.

Oh my friend has asked if she can meet you. Really. It's a second date. I want to get to know you not your pissed up mates.

We walk home. But oh the bar is on the way. I say don't you just want to go home? He says oh we could just stop for one.

We get there and the barmaid brings over a drink for him. So they knew he was coming cos he'd said yes. (I get nothing cos I'm an afterthought obviously...)

I'm sure they're all lovely. But they're out celebrating with shots etc. I wanted a date with one person. Is this just weird?!

[smoocakes6]

i get where you're coming from, he was distracted and pleasing his mates when he should have been concentrating on the here and now. I would put me off tbh. Maybe its just nerves, but would be better to not involve other people. Makes you feel he's not that into you. I'd go with your gut on this OP x

[ParrotShoulder]

Friends or family constantly using their phones while out at a meal is my pet hate. I probably would have pretended to have gone to the loo, left, and then text him "tell your mate that the date didn't go well because you seem to have your phone surgically attached to your hand". But I'm probably a bit crazy .

[whatsoccuringnow]

How old are you both? Just out of interest. If in 20s I'd prob have let him off. Above 30? Annoying...

[irresistibleoverwhelm]

Apart from the phone thing which was rude, I’d think he was someone who couldn’t focus on his partner rather than what his friends were doing - not particularly adult. Who wants a man to be like a teenage lad obsessed with his mates?

[HollowTalk]

Ugh hope you're home now and have blocked him.

[TreadLightly3]

No you’re not weird, the situation is! And I went on a lot of OLDs

[avamiah]

@ParrotShoulder

Friends or family constantly using their phones while out at a meal is my pet hate. I probably would have pretended to have gone to the loo, left, and then text him "tell your mate that the date didn't go well because you seem to have your phone surgically attached to your hand". But I'm probably a bit crazy .

You’re not Crazy as I remember telling a guy I was on a date with that I would meet him outside as he went to the loo but I legged it(ran off).
Oh just to say that we only had drinks and we went (50/50).
It was a awful experience and he was calling me asking where I was and then he got nasty.
I had a feeling he would so I’m glad I trusted my gut instinct.

[Aquamarine1029]

I really hope you're smart enough to never see this loser again. He's a fucking twat.

[Blindleadingtheblind]

I'd swerve this one. So rude!! Next!

[Eviethyme]

Hard to say but it's all too wierd for me

[AnyOldLion]

I'd hate this.

[conecrosoooo]

Grim.

Block and move on

[seconddateshithead]

Thank you!
Sorry was driving home. Annoyed

For the person who asked how old he is.

He's 56!

The thing that tipped me over the edge into fuming in the car was when I said I was going and he'd twigged I was pissed we had to go back to his to get something. He apologised.

His gorgeous dog snuggled up on my lap and he said - sorry Parker I like her too but I don't think we'll be seeing her again.

Don't use cute dogs against me! Talk about emotional blackmail

[irresistibleoverwhelm]

56!! Well if he likes you he should have paid you more attention then!

Honestly. I assumed he was in his twenties!

[LividLaVidaLoca]

You’ve dodged a bullet.

But it sounds like he is drinking and driving. Not okay. Are you home safe now?

[Aquamarine1029]

56! Just a pathetic, sleazy twat. What an absolute fool he is.

[Yescheese]

Urgh, sounds an idiot. Also sounds like his priorities are boozing with his mates, even at the expense of a couple of hours with a new partner. At his age...

[QueenBee52]

@LividLaVidaLoca

You’ve dodged a bullet.

But it sounds like he is drinking and driving. Not okay. Are you home safe now?

I think His home was within walking distance of the Bar and OP's car ...

But Yes OP you dodged a bullet ... Parker sounded nice though ☺️

[QueenBee52]

Ooh she maybe have dropped him off .. 🤔

[PixelatedLunchbox]

56

No wonder he's single.

[Caiti19]

56 year old man child

[Caiti19]

Seriously though, second date is the "best foot forward" stage. Any ass-holeness is supposed to reveal itself gradually over the course of the first few years. If he can't enjoy just you on date 2, I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. You deserve an adult.

[blubberball]

No point wasting your time, because he won't change. Sounds like a div.

[k1233]

If this is his initial best impression, then yeah, you're best rid.

[PurpleSapphire]

Yuk. Sounds like he either wanted to show you off like a trophy bird or wanted his friends opinions on you. I had a similar date many years ago, the entire time, his phone kept going and he kept answering. We had originally met on fb, friend of a friend etc. I went to the loo and saw he had a conversation on his wall for all to see about how our date was going...while we were still on it!!! Strangely, he thought it was going well. He was very arsy with me when I didn't want to go on a second date and couldn't understand why. I never bothered to explain, the fact he couldn't see what he'd done wrong said it all. We were both in our 30s at the time so no excuse!